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anonymous
writes:Dear cupid I have a few exes in my life that I still communicate with but now all of a sudden everyone of them seems as if I did some thing wrong to them but I didn't.We as adults still talk to one another but now they are ignoring me.I'm not sexual with none of them I moved 3000 miles away to have peace but I m thinking every body has grown up I guess not.I thought we all could be friends in spite of our differences.Today is Christmas I spoke to one of them on fb he ignored me so what can I do in this situations. Happy Holidays ??
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 December 2014):
If you didn't do anything wrong then you didn't do anything wrong- no need to wonder. They just moved on and aren't interested in a conversation.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 December 2014):
 I think it's really up to how a relationship ended, and down to the individuals. Some people can become friends down the line, others can't really. They just keep tabs on exes for whatever reasons, familiarity, lingering feelings, so forth.
I think a LOT of people cut ties, because they KNOW keeping them around in any facility means moving on can be harder. And some because their NEW partner aren't interested in all that past baggage.
If they ALL of a sudden make a choice to "dump" this friendship. LET them. Because OBVIOUSLY it didn't mean anything important to them any more. It may suck, but you rally only have one choice, and that is to accept it and respect it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2014): if they ignore you it doesn't mean you are enemies. They just are not very interested in seeing or talking to you anymore. Honestly, i am not interested in talking to my ex-s. Why? They are my exs for a reason. I never understood why people who separate still want to hang out, unless they were awesome friends to begin with.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 December 2014):
 They are "EX-es" fer cryin' out loud..... They're "ex-es" for a reason......
Now, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE, and don't spend another neuron of mental energy worrying about them or what they think of you.....
good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2014): If I may add, most of the time it's the new woman in their lives who'd prefer they cut ties with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2014): You may harbor warm and fuzzy feelings and want to maintain goodwill toward your exes; but they've all moved on. A breakup leaves a bad-taste in the mouths of past lovers for a long-time; it doesn't matter who's fault it was, or why it had to happen. Sometimes people never let go of the bitterness, and the memories they have of the old relationship doesn't allow good feelings to overcome their underlying resentment of you.
It is a chapter most people wish to close in their lives, even if they had an amicable breakup. You have the ability to forgive and forget, all people can't do that.
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