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*ranscowboy
writes:Well, here i am again, another sleepless night. I dont understand why i can't sleep, just fine the other 6 days of the week, but not on the night before i have a date with my girlfriend, i adore my girlfriend.She is so incredible.. I get this extra energy and i just cant sleep, i have tried sleep meds, hot showers everything. Why cant i sleep? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Hmmm...Well, I would say this was perfectly normal if you were a teenager, Transcowboy, but you are obviously not. Is the sleeplessness due to anticipation...or worry and nervousness? Maybe you are putting "cowgirl" up too high on a pedestal (?) Are you unsure of how you might appear to her and feel somewhat inadequate? Like you don't really "deserve" her? I would work on my own self-esteem, if I were you. She obviously would not be seeing you if she felt you were "beneath" her in any way. Just relax and be yourself. Who else can you be? Don't lie awake thinking of great conversation you might make..or great stories to tell. She is probably more interested in what your week or day was like. Ask her about hers and let her talk about herself. Most girls have no problem carrying a conversation. And the most meaningful communication is nonverbal, sometimes. Just being a good listener is important. Eyes and a gentle squeeze of the hand can say a lot. Relax,..just go with the moment. It will be OK!
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