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41-50,
*hannon Williams
writes:I've been texting with a guy I met at uni years ago. The thing is we ended up having cybersex, I didn't really have fun but I thought maybe we could date sometime go put or something, the thing is he is not willling to and appears and disappears in time wanting to have cyber and telephone sex sometime, mainly all times I try to drop. I feel down about this, I have never behaved like this and I feel very down about this guy, I think I'm getting over it, but cannot stop being a bit paranoid about how this fact affects me, getting me up and down when this guy is on the mood.. and knowing it's only him who really enjoys I feel a bit like crab sometime... I should meet other guys but it's difficult to move on and leave this behind and I don't know why... I feel very stupid about it, I don't know how can I have fallen for this guy like this, I have never had one night stands and I have really considered to have one with this guy and move on but he doesn't seems willing to which also makes me feel downany suggestions will be welcomed
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reader, Shannon Williams +, writes (28 September 2010):
Shannon Williams is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks... I didn't post sexual photos though he may have pics from my facebook... yes I feel cheap and yes I feel down and yes I feel I need attention and thought maybe I could change this guy an turn him into a date or boyfriend, I feel quite down, I'll try to move on thanks you're so nice
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): You need to delete and block everything got to do with this guy. You do know he's probably recording you doing this stuff right?
You do know there's every chance he will upload you doing that kind of stuff onto porn sites. It's extremely common and very easy to do. Takes 5 minutes to set up.
You know what he wants, you know this proves how little respect he has for you so you must respect yourself and not get used like this.
Is this guy worth the misery? Is getting absolutely no respect nor satisfaction of any kind from him worth it?
He's not giving you anything in return, why would you give in that situation? Look I understand you're lonely enough that you'll take just about any kind of attention you can get right now, but this will only make you feel worse about yourself, what does it say about your self worth if you're willing to let an internet stranger use you this way when all you have to do is click delete?
Get rid of him, go out with your girlies and have some fun with real men, not sleazy douchbags on the internet.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 stop responding to contact with this guy, he is using you to get off and it makes you feel cheap which in turn lowers your self esteem, think about it! if you dont enjoy him then why talk to him...
what are you gaining by keeping this going? it doesn't make you feel good
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