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36-40,
*rustratedgirl
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now, I am 19, i have had a couple of previous boyfriends and it has been the same with all of them no matter what position etc i am in.. its not lack of trying!!! I was sexually assaulted when i was 14 and i thought it could be a mind block.. But i am completely comfortable with all of my partners and i never even think about it. However i remember the first time i masturbated with a solid object when i was 13 i remember having it feeling great, but not reaching an orgasm but when i finished there was a massive puddle around me.. is that from squirting or what??I can have an orgasm with him when i rub my clit during sex but its no fun and he is getting upset cause he wants to please me without me having to touch myself so its special and makes us closer. I am feeling really guilty, and I have tried going to the sex shop and buying a small vibrator for my clit and some stimulation cream stuff for my clit and still nothing.I can only orgasm if i rub myself the way i do when i masturbate and sometimes i wonder why i bother having sex when masturbation feels better.Can any one suggest anything??Is it possible to get medication to make down there extremely sensitive or something?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 As 'anonymous writers has suggested in last statement, I am to suggest you Tantric sex.
here is some essence of ideas: See sex is above and all a 'play'. Love is different. You can say your self, -I love sex {play}- including the partner you choose. Love for partner is most essential condition, because sex act in itself is most private and intimate act, different from all human act like sleeping, eating, dressing etc.
So, sex is play, and like all other play, sex-play also have some game point to win and to loss. It is ejaculation you should recognize as loss point, no matter it is your partner [male] is ejaculating, but it is your boundary, and within boundary learn to play. Decide you both will not permit ejaculations for one week.. or three hrs of a one love play. it is 'foreplay', which is used here as playing material, which includes kissing, rubbing, caressing, hugging, and check the hardness of male sex organ..also observe the pleasure your mind feel during hardness. and take it as a challenge as to preserve its hardness for hrs longer or a all night game, if you both can afford.
You both will be in heaven...if follow above instruction with full realization. But, remember to check the relationship of pleasure your mind observe and the hardness of penis at the same time. Do not go for intercourse, and make sure that there will be no ejaculation by masturbation for full 15 days....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): From what you describe there seems to be an all out 'enquiry' into why you are not having an orgasm. Wow the pressure you are putting yourself under is immense - the weird things is all this analysis is subconsciously making you unable to let go. Having an orgasm really occurs most frequently at a point of complete relaxation and letting go. I have always felt a mixture of control and vulnerability at this point but I think you need to understand that by concentrating on the orgasm itself (as if its the main goal of the exercise) you are missing the importance of the love, the intimacy and the experience itself. Try injecting more love and tenderness, more time and simply pleasure into your sex and this may help. Just one other point - you might like to read about some of the techniques for Tantric sex?
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reader, cyprus_gal  +, writes (14 January 2008):
dont be silly dont worry im 18 and ive never had an orgasm dont worry you will be suprised at how many people actully cant have an orgasm dont worry try toaching your self when you have sex it could help
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 January 2008):
You are not having any orgasm during sex because your b/f does not employ the right techniques to make you orgasms. They need to have more fore plays. They need to stroke and caress your clitoris with their fingers , tongue and their tool.
Not every girl is the same but usually this works for most girls.
You need to show him and let him pleasure you .He should learn what makes you orgasm.
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