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writes:A mutual attraction developed between a man I used to work with. I left the company. He was one of the bosses. It has been nearly two years and I can not get him out of my head. I am continuously dreaming about him. It is as if my subconscious mind is taking me some where or trying to say something to me. In my dreams he is calling out to me and there have been scenes where he has been distressed. I am a little physic and I feel that there is something behind these dreams.As much as neither of us did anything about our attraction to each other, the body language from him was obvious. Maybe I let of something as well as one day he said to me before I left "could I be a little more discreet and see him after work if need to". I was a little taken back by this and felt a little embarrassed.He has also shared really imitate details with me about an operation he has had done that embarrassed me a little.I have been in two long relationships that have gone no where and keep being drawn to the same kind of guys. This guy is so different and I feel he is really what I need in my life. I just dont know how to tell him. Although we no longer work together, I still see him as this high up manager that I should not be touching, but then I was quite high as well when working there. I changed career and doing something much more adventurous for which he really admired me for as I used him as a referee. Our last contact was Xmas through cards and I hinted a meeting but he did not make any suggestions.Has anyone else been in this situation and what did you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (23 February 2012):
 Ok, then why not give him a call this weekend, see if his busy or not. Maybe go over about him being your mentor over a meal, keep it freindly and see were this leads you both?
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your reply Wendy. I know its hard to get a full picture on here by being brief. He did not know my domestic arrangements and asked me whether I was a Ms or a Mrs. He appears very shy and I feel he was embarrassed to come onto me because of his position and the fact that I worked there and have not long left. Its nearly two years now and I would like an opportunity to find out how he really felt (feels). We are in touch at xmas through cards and I bumped into him once at a train station and he really stared deeply into my eyes. I used him as a referee for my new job and when I called him about it we talked for ages about my family etc.
I would like to become more friendly with him and see where it goes from there. He volunteered to act as a mentor or me but it fell through due to problems with the organisation. I will see if I can bring myself to move things on in a social manner.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (23 February 2012):
HI
I think it's a case of out of sight out of mind with him, his probably flirting with someone else now,As for your dreams,if your thinking about him alot, your eventually going start dreaming about him, like if you watch a horror movie, the next night you will probably have a nightmare about the movie you watched. If something plays on your mind enough you will dream about it. You sent him a xmas card to which he never replyed, I think that says it all to be honest, your old news for him now, harsh but true. He may be the guy for you, but I dont think your the woman for him anymore, which leads me to believe he would have only used you anyway. If he DID like you, he would have been in touch and stayed in touch! :(
Why dont you try getting out with freinds, meet new people, who knows Mr Right might be waiting where you least expect :D
Mandy. x
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