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writes: I liked this guy for so so long. He has loads of different girls. I slept with him twice cos I naively thought that he would like me back.He txt me saying 'I've always liked you. I want you to take me seriously and I want us to have fun together'. I told him I'm moving away next week and his reply was 'let's get it on one more time!' I said 'no sorry. I don't do one night stands' but now I wish I had, just so I can see him!What a loser. But I can't get him out of my head. I mean I haven't seen him for 6 months but I've known him for 3 years and honestly thought about him every single day. What is up with me?I think I'm obsessed with him. I have a photo of him and look at it every nite before I go to bed. He's a 'bad boy' but I've seen such a sweet side. How do Ii get over him!!!??xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): ok, that poster above gave some seriously bad advice. Someone who has been with several girls, tells you that they want to hang out one last time, is not someone who is going to ask you to live with them happily ever after.
We always want what we cant have. I have an exgirlfreind from almost a year ago. She has been in 3 relationships since. I havent, but Ive been with about 9 different girls since.
And I still have her in my head.
Maybe it has something to do with the emotional toil it brings us. Maybe we feel like we are trying to prove something to them or to ourselves that we want that back in our life. I dont know,
but I do know that the best thing to do is CUT all your ties with that person. Every single thing. When I did that I was fine.
Then recently I decided to go to california, and before I did I got ahold of her. Brought back every bad feeling about her right up front. Im sitting at 3am and still thinking of this girl. Its sick actually.
I guess this is a rant in its own right, but my advice is to cut all ties, delete the phone number, move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): Sorry i really dont agree wiv anyone elses answers! he is OBVIOUSLY just using u for 'getting it on wiv u'. thats obviously all that boy cares about. cos he said that in the text basically he is saying 'lets get it on one more time' and then its over unless u want more sex! i know what i am on about cos it has happened to my mates. gd luck, i know its harsh but tht is exacly the sort of person he sounds like!
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 I have to say I think you did right in not seeing him because at least on the surface it shows he has no power over you and he sounds like the type that would exploit your vulnerability to his own ends. It seems to me that you see something in his sweet side that attracts you and is it maybe possible that the 'bad boy' side gives you a thrill?? We often like things that are nominally bad for us so I wouldnt think there is something wrong with you.
If he is serious about you then he needs to prove so in what he does because his sweet side could just be words. I think you need to get your head around what you like about this guy and look for it in other people. Moving away might help because you will be meeting new people and new doors will open up for you. Hope that helps. Take care.
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reader, dancingqueen +, writes (25 May 2006):
 i think you did the right thing telling him you dont do one night stands. It is understandable that you cant get him off you're mind if you refer to him as a "bad boy" i mean what woman does'nt like a little wild side to men, thats probably what your missing. Our minds can be deciving if we want something then we relate to the closest thing to it. Ask yourself...Do you really like this guy or do you just want an adventure? If you do like him try and get in touch with him, whats the worst that can happen? From my point of view the only way to get over him is to find out how you really feel. Contact him even if its by phone, when you hear him you'll know who you feel.
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reader, lboy +, writes (25 May 2006):
 well it sounds to me like you're in love with him, i know that's probably not the answer that you were looking for but it's what it sounds like. you should try and go to see him, the worst that could happen is that he's moved on but that would give you the room to move on yourself. you never know you might end up staying with him and living happily ever after with the man of your dreams.
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