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writes: Dear Cupid, I split with my fiance of 7 years, about 4 months ago. We were constantly falling out, getting back together, falling out etc etc. It was a strange relationship, but it worked, somehow. People always said, we cant live together and we cant live apart. Then she met this friend of hers, and her friend started to cause trouble by saying things, she believed her, and we split.I accept that. But now, ive met this girl who is totally the opposite of my ex. She lets me watch football, go out with my friends, loves sex.... shes everything ive never had.... so why am I constantly thinking about, and wanting to be with my ex.It is driving me up the wall. Why does the ex seem to be over me and enjoying life, while I am suffering, and also, not treating my new girl as well as she deserves to be treated? Any help would be appreciated, especially in getting the ex out of my thoughts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): Hi, the best way to forget about your ex is read this article on yahoo answers. I just read it and it helps out ALOT! I would post it here directly but i think i would get in trouble for stealing his work. It is by "Angel Tears" I will give you the link. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20071021085157AAMGROE&show=7
Honestly Read it! It's the "Best Answer - Chosen by Voters"
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Maybe she was your soul mate. Maybe you argued because you were so alike? You need to decide if your just hung up on what you cant have or if you seriously want her for the rest of your life. The only way back from a break up like this is to get back for keeps and make the big commitment. Engagement means nothing these days to be honest. If you want her, go and get her, but MEAN it.
You cant be with someone 7yrs if it doesnt work. Relationships that dont work dont last 7weeks let alone 7yrs, so think about the reason you finally broke up (her friend) and think about the possibility that her 'friend' was actually jealous of what she had and wanted her to be single like her so she had someone to go out with (girls can be bitchy like that!)
Anyway, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2005): No matter how bad the person was, it can often been hard to deal with a break up. You were with this person for 7 years! She was a major part of your life for a long time! Its naturally to take awhile to get over her.I'm happy that you were able to find such a great new girl. But I hope you sort out your feelings before you end up hurting this new woman. I know you're confused, but its no excuse to treat this woman poorly and unloved, because you're on the rebound.
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A reader, Starr, writes (3 February 2005): I know how hard it can be getting over someone in your past but with all do respect boo, it is time to move on.You said that you have a wonderful girl in your life now,do you want to keep her in life? If so you need to realize that while you're thinking about your ex, your ex is not thinking of you and has probably moved on with her own life. Look you definitely do not want to make yourself look like a fool. For instance let's say you go to her and you two get back together. Things continue to go terribly between the both of you and eventually seperate anyway. You will have to live with the fact that you sacrificed everything positive that was beginning to happen for you for someone you already knew deep inside your heart was not worth the sacrifice. There is a consequence for every action made in life be sure to think about what you do before you do it and be willing to acccept the results in return.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (2 February 2005):
 I think you are still hung up on your ex because she was a challenge. You had an exciting relationship, probably loads of passion too. However, it wasn't stable and secure and you didn't really know what was going to happen next.It is different with your new girl-friend. She isn't as much of a challenge to you as she allows you to do the things you want to do. You need to cherish her! You are very lucky to have her and need to be able to give to her like she is giving to you.Your ex is enjoying life so now it is time for you to do so too. Deliberately put her to the back of your mind and focus on your girl-friend who does deserve all your attention. Make this a rule in your head that you will devote all your energy to your new girl-friend. You need to realise that your previous relationship wasn't going anywhere and it wouldn't have lasted.There is no need to feel bored with your girl-friend now. Find out what she is interested in, what can you do together? Recognise that she would probably stick with you through thick and thin and I bet if you look hard enough, she is just as exciting as your ex! Banish your ex from your mind through willpower and using your common sense and enjoy your new relationship.Good luck.
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