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writes:I love my boyfriend a lot... sometimes I ask myself why and my answer is bcuz I love him and I know he loves me...There's no other answer... as far as him helping me financially and being there when I need him as far as needing a ride or something simple...But he's there emotionally...When I ask myself y I love him and my answer is bcuz I love himIs that good?Should that be my only answer? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): i'm not sure anyone can explain love... it's just one of those things :)
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reader, Honesty? You have that with me  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Well it is probebly the only answer you've got so far so think about that?You've learned to love somebody unconditionally which is very good for you its spiritual growth and means your a loving personI sence a little emptyness thoughI think financial surport and the occassional lift are important to you and why wouldnt it be theres nothing wrong with that its the way everyone deserves to be treatedjust make sure the emptyness can be filled even if you have to get it yourself and along the way you may drift apartnatrally when you discover another man out there whocan give you all the things you need to feel furfilled and yes it may be him it may not be but theres nothing to fear your living your life and following your heart just make sure your happy I mean really happy otherwise theres mo point, take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): In my PERSONAL opinion, "because I do" should not be the only answer to that question because there's a difference between strongly appreciating someone and loving them. Instead, ask yourself this: Would you still love him if he suddenly lost his job and became poor? Would you still love him if be became paralyzed and could no longer provide you with physical support? Ask yourself this as well: What things do you like about him? Are they enough to warrant love? or just love in a friendship manner?
When I was in High School (21 now) I dated a geek with whom I could never quite answer "why do I love him" and I accepted my "just because!" as a good enough answer. As years went by, I slowly came to realize that I was never in love with him...that I perhaps cared for him as a friend and person, but I never "loved" him. I did the same thing with my current fiance. I asked myself "why do I love him" and answers EASILY came popping into my head: because he's considerate, accepting of me, loving, supportive, strong, confident, inspiring...etc. You might want to take a closer look at your relationship. It could be that you do love him, and just don't know HOW to answer, or it could be that you don't love him as much as you think, and simply cannot find the answers as to 'why' because there aren't any.
Seriously, just evaluate your relationship. Take the time to figure out what it is you like about this guy and determine whether or not it's enough to warrant love or just friendship.
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reader, ilovebenni  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Well it seems to me your answer is right in front of you.You love him because he's there for you financially,to give you a ride or simple things,basically because he's just there when you need him.Importantly he's also there for you emotionally.Plain and simple...
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