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anonymous
writes:Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years at first everything was good n we got on really well we still don't argue now, but he's changed. He always seems very quiet and bad tempered lately which he never used to be. The affection and everything is now gone. It feels like we've been together for years. Every time we plan to go somewhere he doesn't want to go. I feel like I'm losing feelings for him. what can I do to get them back? If I ask him what's wrong he just says nothing he's fine. Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonem  +, writes (12 December 2015):
 If you have been with him for 3 years, I do not see why you cannot FIRMLY ask what is wrong. You have to stand you ground when asking him. You shouldn't just let him keep on saying no.
Sometimes I find it hard when we women cannot ask our partners what is wrong? Even if he proves difficult. Something is obviously not right or bothering him. I would suggest you approach the situation calmly but do not take no or its fine for an answer.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (12 December 2015):
 I think you need to sit him down and say, 'Look things aren't fine no matter what you say. We are supposed to be partners and share things. Now what is going on?'
Try something like that and don't take no for an answer. It could be so many things worrying him; anything from work to health. Don't imagine necessarily that it is you.
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reader, Lisa123 +, writes (12 December 2015):
Difficult, men tend to 'retreat' when they have a problem. No matter how much we (women) ask what is wrong, they just don't open up. So what do we do ? Could be a number of reasons why he is being so closed to you now, look at the bigger picture, is all ok with the intimacy side of things, or have you had any major things happen in either of your lives ? Do you feel you can turn to him if you have a problem ? For the moment I would just try to carry on and give him some space, fingers crossed he will finally
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