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writes:Iv broken up with my lover because i felt our relationship wasn't going anywhere.We were together for over 3 years but he lacked intimacy,even though i showed him what i wanted he appeared uncomfortable and he only got really affectionate when sex was going to follow,which i found annoying.We didn't live together because i had children and he didn't want to play step father,even though i never asked him to.Its been 7 weeks since we have split up but he keeps txting me.He wants to meet up and start again but iv kept saying no,iv told him how i felt,i still have feelings for him but i feel he isn't enough,sometimes i felt like he was using me for just a leg over,he only lasted 2 mins! Why cant he accept that we have finished? I dont want to change my phone number.Do you think he really does love me? or he cant face rejection?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): hiyah hun, u hit the nail on the head with the rejection!! he dusnt love yhu and maybe he can face rejection, or maybe he has realised he has missed the greatest oppurtinity in his life!! im a bloke myself soit may seem he im sticking up for him, but i aint.
well anyways there are only a few guys out there who are not like that. this may sound big headed, but i have been told i am not like that!! and to prove it iv been with my fiancé since i was 13 and i know am 24 so its just to prove that there are a few nice and caring blokes out there.
anyways hope yhu figure it oot and if yhu decide to get bak with him talk to him first and ask if he will change and accept the children if not get rid of him simple!!!
anyways gurd luk and take care
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reader, stina  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Hi Anonymous,After three years - or any amount of time - your guy shouldn't have been acting that way. He should have wanted to cuddle with you and do those sorts of things that couples do. Also I find it strange that he wanted to be with you, but not accept your children. Wouldn't he want to take a part in their lives since they're obviously so special to you. Especially if he planned on being with you long term. Avoiding the kids and then all of a sudden moving in if your relationship progressed? Awkward! He can't pick and choose who he wants to have out of a family.The reason he wants back in is because the relationship seems to have been all about him - what he wanted, he got. An no, he can't take rejection, but he could sure reject you and your children during the whole relationship! Talk about self-centered. You and your kids deserve more than this guy has apparently ever provided.I think you did the right thing. It's good that he's not a part of your life anymore and it's even better that you're strong enough to not let him back. Seeing someone you once cared about get pouty and upset can get really hard. Don't let him make you feel guilty. When you stop answering his calls and not responding to texts, etc he will eventually stop trying to contact you.And on a slightly different note, I believe that some companies offer a call block feature so you dont' get calls from certain numbers anymore. I would call your provider to find out if they offer this. It might save you some headaches. Otherwise, I'm with snowbird, I would recommend changing your number.Take care.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (1 September 2006):
 I think you have just answered your own question here..he did'nt learn his lesson then - what is to say he ever will? Trust me, you are better off with someone who can GIVE and receive pleasure, and he sounds far too selfish. I was married to a man for over 30 yrs who never learnt that one!! And to top it all, you need a man who is willing to give your children the love they deserve. What kind of relationship was that, how could you progress when he never accepted them? Time to move on, methinks...and it will be worth changing your number if it will get him off your back - or just delete!!
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