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writes:im inlove with my man and someday hopefully i intend getting him to make me his wife,i want to love and be with him forever,but 1 snag he constantly accuses me of hiding things in my email yet i allow him full access to look at anything,it's so heartbreaking for me as i know he loves me just as much maybe,so why cant he just realise and accept my heart belongs to him and i only want him as he`s all i need Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Did he ever stumble upon something? Or did he ever become suspicious for a reason? Have you put up this question in the hope he`ll get hung off all the agony aunts? Judging from the vague content of this question,its impossible to answer.He`s suspicious of an e mail account that he`s got access to? What about the ones he hasnt? Come on anon female,this question comes accross that your the guilty one.
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (30 September 2007):
 I think you can’t make him stop being suspicious if that is how he is as a person. I think you must set up your own boundaries towards him, put your foot down on how far you are allowing him to go. If you keep giving him access to all of your private mails for example, to show him you have nothing to hide, he will still remain suspicious and thinking that maybe you are using another way and that is why you allow the mails, the mobile, the…how far into your private sphere is it ok for you? I think it is a kind of a violation to be so suspicious that you must have access to everything to be checked. No trust can ever come out of that. Trust is not to be able to check and control the other, trust is to believe the other will not hurt you while giving space and freedom to each others.
Maybe and hopefully he will come to senses if you stop accepting his accusations and need to control. If he wants to be with you, he must trust you and stop accusing you for things that never happened. If he is smart he will choose being with you instead of loosing you because of his paranoia.
Wish you all the best!
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