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writes:I am a 30 year old female. I am able to achieve and orgasm alone with my rampant rabbit. Sadly, no man has ever given me an orgasm. How do I manage to have one with a guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): It's all about relaxing and a guy knowing what he is doing. Unfortunatelly most guys don't know what to do. I don't how it's even possible not knowing for centuries what to do with a woman. I had many boyfriends who didn't know what to do even when I told them exactly what I need. And all I needed is a little more time to relax. The best sex I had with a guy that I never saw again and it was in a car for an hour. He was an expert, and knew exactly what to do with me. I was in heaven, I still remember him many years later. It was doomed with him though, we were both after a night of drinking, and kind of knew it would be a one night stand. We didn't even exchange any info. But sadly to say he was the best lover I ever had.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): To start with I think you should ditch the rabbit and try using just your fingers. You may have become too used to the vibrator.
Or you could introduce a little bullet vibrator into love making when you're with a guy and see if that helps - him using it on you, or you using it.
If it's a fear of loss of control with someone else - a psychological barrier - I guess you just have to wait and find someone you're really comfy with and trust, so you're not worried about orgasming with him there.
It's a complex thing and I have the exact same issue. Frustrating for me and for my lover!!! Good luck to us both ;)
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (23 June 2013):
 Because intercourse alone does not stimulate your clitoris, which is where most of your sexual response is. Use your hand or a vibrator during sex and you should be fine.
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reader, KnowAll  +, writes (23 June 2013):
Firstly, you need to forget about the fact that you want to achieve an orgasm. Now when you're with your man, make sure you start 'love making' and not 'sex'. Tell him you don't want to have sex 'porn movie' style but you want real hot passionate sex! Make sure he has a good hard and thick penis. When he enters you let him be inside you for a minute or two without thrusting. Tell him to rub your g-spot with the head of his penis inside without coming out. I'm sure you'll have a mind blowing orgasm this way coz I always do!
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