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writes: Alright here's the thing, I broke up with he ex two years ago and to be honest, it pretty much fell apart, came vey close to the edge but then thanks to family and friends I got myself back. Moved abroad for a while made friends, travelled found myself and actually enjoyed life.Why then is the girl still in my head, I know I was treated like crap, I know I deserve better, but it was my first love and I could see my kids when I looked at this girl. I am worried that because she is still in my head some of the time that it may be preventing me from getting to know anyone new and I am also worried that I come across as desperate because I would love to regain the happiness and love that I had when we were together.Just interested to know what people think, any advice greatfully received.Elpigaro
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): My situation is your situation. 2 years for me too. I think my biggest mistake is trying to find that same exact feeling that my ex gave me. I don't think it exists, and I think thats the pitfall we face. Accept that you will never find another one like her. And find something different, but also good. That's the theory anyways. :p
"I would love to regain the happiness and love that I had when we were together"
That's what I mean.. unless you and her get back together, you never will regain that same happiness and love. It was unique to her at that moment. And even if you DO get back together with her, the relationship will be different, and how you feel will be different. You are chasing a particular point in time, that is simply no more.
Good luck brother. I wish I could help u more, but my ex is still in my head too..so these solutions are all hypothetical!
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