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writes:I am 16 years old.. I had unfinished sex. It was very cold and we were outside.. I was hard at first but then when we took off our clothes I was getting softer. I first got inside her but I got soft and then I couldnt enter again.. after that (happend like 2 months ago) when I masturbate I don't get as hard as I used to. I get hard but not hard enough..In the morning I get woody or woodies Ii don't know how they are called and am still hard but not that hard..what's wrong with me.. Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (12 January 2009):
 Nothing is necessarily wrong with you.
Because of your experience "al fresco", your self esteem may be down and subconstiously you may doubt your performance when you start masturbating.
The fact that you are really hard in the morning shows you have a working "tool". A lot of men display the same symptons in the morning, mostly because the brain is asleep and the body is free to express whatever emotion at the time. Meaning there is no stress to stop the act.
I bet when you try to masturbate, it is on your mind, " I need to get hard, I must get hard" and a few seconds later "What if it does not get hard, why is it not getting hard, come on, come on". Even if you are not aware of this, it may what is happening.
Next time you have sex, try it indoors. Meanwhile you masturbate next (leave it for at least 1/2 weeks to really build tension), get some privacy and give yourself time.
Estimulate your penis with sensual lube and start slowly, if it takes a long time, it does not matter, take a break and try again.
Think of the sexiest person alive and imagine your favorite sexual fantasy, do not let any other thoughts in your mind.
It may not work first time, but there is no harm in keep trying.
I am sure that once you get your confidence back on Mr Woodie, you will be back to normal.
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