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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I know he loves me too.We have a great relationship, we can on well, hardly ever argue and when we do, sort it out straight away.However, I'm at uni and he works full-time back at home, so we don't get to see each other as often as we like, when we do it's great, but when we're apart I can get so insecure and jealous...I did get cheated on in my last relationship and he knows about this ad is so understanding. He never gets mad when I get upset about things, he just reasures me and make things seem better but then a week or so later it'll happen again, I don't get mad at him, I just explain that I'm upset because of certain things.I want to stop feeling like this because I do trust him. I'm worried the longer it carries on the further away I'll push him and maybe one day he won't be able to be so understanding any more... even I'm getting bored of feeling this way :( help!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (11 January 2009):
I'm very sorry you have been cheated on before, it must of been horrible, and I can understand that its still making you feel worried and insecure in your current relatiuonship.
So yes, that could be the cause of your insecurity in your current relationship. However, you do have to consider whether your bf is really doing anythign to make you feel insecure. When you feel insecure, what sorts of things is he doing? It might not just be all your inseucurities, it could be somethings hes doing.
Its a good sign that he is very understanding though!
Since you dont get to see each other that often, that probably only worsens your insecurity, so try to keep contact with each other via phone, text messages, email, online instant messages etc every day, even if its just a message to say 'hi how are you, i miss you!' type of thing- doesnt have to be a big conversation.
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