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writes:Why do these girls behave this way? I hate them:(?So I got a new job a few months ago and the girls there are horrible.They are very unfriendly and don't speak to me so I don't bother with them either.They all go around saying I'm rude and stuck up. That's the first time I've been called that. I love my job and I love my customers and they think I'm a very sweet girl.One of the girls I talk to was walking with some colleagues being loud etc so when she spoke to me and I reply she didn't hear me.A few minutes into my shift she comes with the girls that don't speak to me created a scene and said I'm very rude for ignoring her. I said no I replied she didn't hear me. I told her I don't have a problem with her and did answer her she just didn't hear me.What was all of that about? Seriously I hate these girls. Grrrr but I need a job.I speak to the ones that speaks to me and ignore the ones that don't speak to me. I think they want me to kiss their asses but they won't be happening.I felt very embarrassed and attacked at the same time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 September 2013):
 BEST thing to do..... seriously... KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS...
be kind to a fault... if it's ok bring donuts on payday to share or fruit if they are all bitchy watch their weight kind of girls....
smile and say hi to everyone.. OFFER to pick up coffee or stuff.... folks who are bitchy on purpose do it to get a rise out of you... and being kind to them takes the wind out of their sails and takes all their fun away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2013): The amount of situations I've been where the people are miserable, rude and cliquey, for no reason whatsoever! I like you am a very friendly and outgoing person and when i work i. Customer service the customers make my job... i love them and care about everyone of them... theyre people Even when I'm upset I will still treat them with care... They're jealous of how happy and attractive you come across to people, as for whatever reason they're unhappy with their own lives, and get comfort from trying to break you down... To make you miserable like them maybe!
They seek comfort and reassurance in their pathetic little cliques... It makes them feel important and special- when actually all they're doing is clinging on to negativity because they don't know any better way.
You sound very much like me, and unfortunately I think if you're in retail/ hospitality I've found these companies treat you like cr*p, and often just don't care about running you into the ground.
But keep your cool and remember what you love about the job- the customers- focus on talking to them because C service it's kindof the best work for distractions for people like us :)
It should throw them off and calm down soon, but if it gets really nasty, any pranks, threats, physical contact write it down, as in the time date... If it's anything majorly distressing, then tell the manager there and then. Talking from experience!
There are a lot of hacks out there... We're all dealt a s**t hand now and agin but don't need to be a s**t about it!
You're great! Chin up :) xxx
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (15 September 2013):
 Sounds to me that these girls feels threatened by you.
You will have done nothing to deserve their treatment of you except be clearly good at what you do and confident in who you are. Am I right?
They're jealous and feel that you will probably show them up and therefore try to make themselves feel better by putting you down.
This is their issue and their insecurity. If they put as much effort into their work as they do bitching they might get results and be less worried about others.
Just carry on doing what you're doing. At the end of the day you're there to work, not socialise, so keep focused on that and keep ignoring them, they'll eventually get bored or grow up.
Congrats on the new job by the way.
I wish you well AB x
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