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writes:[Moderators Note - OP's own title]I am a manager in education. Recently all the students have been complaining about my style in dealing with them and so have some of the staff. Apparently I am like a dictator. I am one of the most thoughtful, approachable people. I am quite and hardworking.I am finding it hard to accept this. I personally feel a staff member is trying to sabbatage me out of jealously and her own insecurities.I am currently being "investigated" I feel no way as I have not got anything to hind and the comments have no substantial evidence.Any supportive comments welcomed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your comments. I am 2 years in to management. I have surprised myself as I am told I am doing a good job. So much so trying to bring in change. I have not got the full details of the complaint but I feel it has a lot to do with change and changes.
I am adaptable to change but have joined a group of dinosaurs who are resilent to change and new ideas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): Hi. You obviously feel this is a personal matter between you and another member of staff. Even if this were the case, it would be rather difficult for her to enlist the help of ALL the students and some of the staff in complaining about you. There must be a problem for so many to be unhappy. With respect, brushing aside their opinions is indeed something a dictator would do.
Red Greens remarks were helpful. Try talking to a few people that you respect. Ask them to be brutally honest about how they feel you interact with staff and students. See what they have to say. Also it might be worth talking to some that have complained about you. Find out what they arent happy about. Then address the issues they highlight by finding a solution.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 March 2010):
Find a co-worker you respect, and have them give you a no-holes-bared assessment of your work style and how you come across.
I work with one lady, very expert in her field, highly educated, but virtually impossible to work with due to her insecure personality. She's her own worst enemy and other people in the office (there are 80+ of us) avoid her as the cries at the drop of a hat, and complains that no one appreciates her. We do, but the pain to deal with her isn't worth it. She doesn't see what trouble she is causing herself.
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