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writes:I am a friend of two guys, they are brothers. Her parents live overseas and each year they come here to visit them and stay in States for 6 months...I know them for long time ago and they are very nice with me. The make me feel like part of the family.One day I came to their place and I saw a magazine on the table, I grabbed it and I saw a name of a woman with the adress of their place on the cover page...I asked them who is "anna" and they told me we dont know..maybe is the last person who lived here and we still are receiving mail... I said ok.Their parents arrived not too long ago and they invited for a dinner, I came in and their mother huged me and kissed me and called me "anna"...I know she realised the mistake and called me by my name after that...I didnt say anything...Since that moment I been visiting them for many times and more than once she called me by that name "anna" ..I just acted like I didnt hear it..but I start to feel soo unconfortable because now I can see the truth..They do know definitely that woman..but what is the point to hide that? I havent say anything to them about it.. Seems like their mom does not do that puorpose, but I am upset at them because why they are hidding that woman from me?? They are my friends. Not relationship involved..not FWB..pure and white friendship.I just dont know how to handle this situation..should I confront the boys? should I tell straigh the mom dont call me that name?? ... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): Thanks so much Abella...now I am thinking all the "stupid" excuses that one of them gave me when I asked about that "anna"...if is a girlfriend..it is ok for me...we are not in love..we are friends.
I am feeling treated like a fool now. I just dont want to see them often that I use to.
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 June 2012):
 It sounds like you look like 'Anna' who ever Anna is. And ex girl friend? a former wife of one of the guys? Or a former employee who the guys knew as a very close friend?
It cannot be a sister as no mother would make that mistake. There is no bad blood between Anna and the mother of the guys otherwise she would not greet you with so much happiness.
There is a secret the guys do not want to divulge to you. And you are a friend so perhaps they do not feel obligated to tell you the details. If you were a potential girlfriend or potential wife then yes maybe they would be prepared to say more.
The fact that the guys appear to have no problem lying to you is a problem for me. There is an incongruity with all this that would have me wondering why the need for such secrecy. Is it because the truth would make you very uncomfortable indeed if you knew the truth?
You clearly feel you have been able to trust these guys and you are welcome in their home and welcome to meet their mother. Please take care to protect yourself when you are with these people who you currently trust.
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