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writes:So I've been seeing a woman for a little while now. Not together, but maybe getting towards that point.Problem is I don't really know how I feel about her. Well I do, and I feel a hell of a lot for her, but only some of the times I see her. Other times not really that much at all.I can't just work it out why my feelings are so variable. I could understand if they were more constant; I'd be able to make decisions based on that. But when I don't know if I should end this, or just keep things as they are as I may develop to feel more for her with time as to be honest, I am feeling more for her with time - the time before last was amazing, I really felt she was right and we should be together - and this might well continue to grow with time into something really good. But then the last time not a lot, hardly anything at all. And on a couple other dates in the past. Why such swings from one to the other? Theres nothing shes said or done really that I can work out as to make me feel this way. I'm happy for things to tick over to see how this might work out, but I don't want to string her along with us reaching the point where we'll probably say if we are together - at the moment nothing is official so I guess its a bit easier / flexible at the moment but might not be for much longer.Any thoughts / ideas? I'm not that experienced when it comes to relationships - is this sort of thing 'normal'? Work and other stresses may affect thing I guess? Not every day is going to be all light and fluffy butterflies...? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2015): Keep saying her and you will know that she is the one once you stop feeling negatives and positives, once you stop wondering about her the way you just describe. Such state is called by some as male comfort but it's a feeling where hanging out with her is just a normal thing as you stopping at a store to by soda. So relax, stop wondering and make some good memories for her and yourself.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (7 March 2015):
of course all days aren't gonna be jumping out of a fairy tale. Give it time and figure it out. Stop overthinking the situation and start enjoying it. Let's time take it's course. You will figure it out eventually. It's normal, so it's important to not rush things up.
Gool Luck
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