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writes: I'm a female, 20, and I've always had boys for friends because I don't like confrontations or drama that I get with girls, so in the past 3-4 years I've become best friends with a group of 5 guys who've pretty much been there for me and have been pretty supportive..until now. About 9 months ago I asked Harry out because I assumed I really liked him, BUT it turned out that he wasn't who I thought he was. I absolutely knew he was wrong for me within two weeks of dating. (I became disgusted by his hygiene and the way he treated people and knew he wasn't for me, but I didn't want to tell him this and hurt his feelings.) I almost never saw him because of work and having to take care of my sick father, etc. So i basically saw him once a week or every other week and didn't want to break up until I knew he wouldn't have hard feelings. When I did break up a month later he completely understood that we had drifted apart and were not complimentary to each other. After breaking up we still hung out together but it was always with all of our mutual friends; it wasn't awkward or difficult at all but during this time I found out that my friend Simon liked me through the grape vine but I never thought about it because he never brought it up..but I could tell that he "liked me" but I didn't feel the same.After about two weeks my current boyfriend, let's call him Jack, started to hint that he liked me and I felt the same way because he'd always been there though everything. He asked me out and I said yes and we've been together for quite a while now and he's everything I could ever dream of. (he later told me that Simon told him to ask me out) Now that I'm dating Jack I don't talk to anyone as much as I used to, in fact, I've stopped talking to everyone because they've been nothing but unpleasant and mean toward me for no reason.So when I visit Jack his roomates don't exactly treat me as they should and it really upsets me because I've never done anything to be treated this way.. I assume it's because they are jealous because of our relationship but Jack says they're jealous because they want what he has: me. I don't completely agree with this but I want to know how to fix this, or if it is fixable. Why do they feel they need to take out their anger on me and treat me like dirt? do they they really hate me or are they just acting?
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (14 September 2009):
 They were Jacks friends before he was your boyfriend. Out of respect for Jack they treat you differently. This is just one of the many ways Guys are different than girls. Sorry this is just the guys version of "Drama".
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