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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello Dear Cupiters! I'm wondering why this is happening.. I talk to guys just fine. But when they start to mention sex a lot in the conversation, I make it clear that I'm not an easy gal! And this happens when we're just getting to know each other.. So, I'm thinking "geez take it easy buddy." Lol. They get quiet for a few mins. then they say, "that's good." And they back-off a little. Am I doing the correct thing by letting them know up-front that I won't give them my flower? LOL. At least I want to get to know them much more..be in a serious relationship. Btw I'm 27 yrs. old. And I'm talking to a guy who's the same age. We're just talking and texting every now and then. Planning a first date this weekend. So, I'm like "take it easy!" And I do like to joke around a lot.. that's just me. At first I go along with it (sexual comments). But after awhile, I put the brakes on when the SEX topic keeps coming up a lot. Maybe the joking around gives them the wrong idea..?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 January 2009):
 You've got it right, young lady. It is perfectly okay for you not to be an easy lay, yet it is also okay to kid around about sex. It is also typical (and quite normal) for guys to be showing an interest in sex with you, even at an early point, but I think you handle it very well and they "back-off" a bit. If one is a gentleman and remains willing to go along with you (at your pace), then he may be worth giving a chance. Just because a man begins hinting at sex doesn't make him a bad guy. But I think that you are handling it perfectly - joke around some, but he will have to win you over first.
Hey, I'm an old fogey at age 61, and when I meet a woman, usually in her 50s or early 60s, we usually start kidding around about sex fairly early. Actually, they usually bring it up first. So, it's kind of a popular topic don't ya know.
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Yeah, if that's what he's talking about, then that's what he is looking for out of this relationship.
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