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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Ok well to start this off me and my ex are both 18 and we dated for almost 11 months before we ended. through that time he told me he fell in love with me somewhere along the line and i did too it seemed like everything was perfect until one day he broke up with me because he said he didnt love me as much anymore because of the things i was doing, those things being paranoid alot, over reacting and getting mad at him for the slighest things :/ he did things wrong too but i really think i conpletely messed it up. a few weeks later we started talking and hanging out again and he kissed me on one of the occasions and then asked me if we could get back together and that he made a big mistake and he still loved me all that time, stupidly, i said yes and 3 hours later we broke up again and he said hes sorry for not thinking it through but he doesnt think it was a good idea. we didnt talk again for several weeks after that, a few weeks later we talked and met again and same story he told me he was still unsure but im still the most beautiful girl hes seen and he wants it to work again in the future so a few days later we went to a party together and i decided this would be the time i talk to him about everything weve gone through and that i wanted to sort this out, i told him i either want us to get back together or stay completly apart with no secret meeting up(he didnt want his friends to find out he was around me again), and whenever we did meet up we always felt like we were together again. i also asked him if he still loved me and he said he would rather keep it a secret and when i asked why he said i just dont want to tell you and then i asked him if we are ever going to get back together and he said he doesnt know hes so confused and he has been for a few months now. when i told him in that case i guess were finished he replied with please dont do this and when i asked why he said hes just confused and doesnt know whether he wants to or not. so i told him i dont want to be stuck in the middle anymore so im not going to wait until he sorts his mind out im just going to move and find someone different and he didnt reply. we havent talked since. why is he confused? is this just an excuse? what exactly is going on?? and most importantly what should i do if i want things to go back to how they were when we were in love?
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