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writes:For a few nights in a row, I've woken up in the middle of the night with a feeling of utter sadness about being in this relationship with my boyfriend. We have our disagreements and do have arguements but they don't last longer than a few hours. So why is it that I've been waking up in the middle of the night wanting so much to run away from this relationship. The feeling is so strong and so bitter that usually it takes me a while to calm myself down inorder to be able to get back to sleep. I wake up hating myself for stillbeing in this relationship and just asking myself why... WHY am I still with him.During the day time I find myself beginning to not want to spend time with him or talk to him and become easily irrated with things he say or does. He thinks we're going through a rough patch but doesn't see anything wrong with our relationship. He even said he woke up the other night feel so happy and in love with me. At this point I can't even say for sure whether I love him. What is wrong?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 September 2015):
 I think you know what is wrong. You have outgrown the relationship or lost that "loving feeling" for your partner, but you don't want to be the "bad guy" and end it.
You have to, at some point, decide if you want continue with this state of unhappiness or not. It really doesn't matter if HE thinks all is well, if you KNOW in your heart it's not.
If you aren't sure there is anything that can be done to "fix" why you feel this way...
You will come to a (pardon the crude expression) "sh!t or get off the pot" moment and go from there.
There is only ONE person in your life who can be in charge of YOUR happiness - and that person is you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2015): Why are you stressing yourself with a problem who's solution is in your hands? Really. Why are you with him? You might have loved him in the past but you never vowed to stick around for better or for worse. You are not obliged to stay in a relationship just because you entered it in the first place.
Release yourself and him to find happiness elsewhere since it isn't with each other.
No, staying with him doesn't stop you breaking his heart. Staying with him means you destroy his self esteem before you break his heart. Eternally striving for love from someone who can't give it does wear down the soul.
The kind thing to do for you both is to go your separate ways.
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