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writes:Hey, im a 17 year old male and iv been with the most amazing girl for about 3 weeks now and iv fallen already and im really scared of losing her, she tells me she loves me and i know she does but theres this thing inside me, like its controlling me and makeing me paranoid and i worry all the time that she doesnt love me when i know she does, and today she said to me her friend from spain rang her today and she said "he" and i automatically said to her "He?!" just silly stuff like that and its stupid and shes said to me "you really need to stop worrying or you will lose me" and after that she said she does love me and dont want to split up with me so yeh i know she loves me, but why the hell am i being worried, and paranoid please help me, i broke up with my ex about 7 weeks ago and i was hurt because she went off with my best friend so i think thats part of why i worry so much. Hope you can help me!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Hello. I want to let you know my boyfriend does this to me all of the time. I cant spend a simple day with my friends or even my sister without him on my ass about something. All I could ask of him is for trust. Ask yourself these questions: Has she given me a reason to not believe her? What would I do if she was doing this to me? Do I really think my girl is betraying me? Those are things I wish my boyfriend would ask himself. A relationship is all about trust and even though you've been hurt before, its a new relationship, start fresh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You Shadytree your big help i will do that, just from reading what you have said you've made me think positive already lol, thanks!
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reader, shadytree +, writes (12 December 2007):
i think you hit the nail on the head at the end with why you have this complex. Most people would be really disturbed by their girlfriends going off with their best friend and you know what you shouldn't further your anxiety by getting freaked out by it ! Youre really lucky to have met this new girl, what you need to do is really see that this girl is different and though its totally hard to do, just try and accommodate this new girl in your mind who is totally different to the old one. Maybe tell her youre having difficulty with trust just because of your experience, but honestly just try and refrain from having negative thoughts and give all your trust and belief in this new girl and chances her she will act in the same way as you expect her to. Dont you often think you dream things up ? Like someone turns up after you think about them randomly, well i believe that . And dreaming up a nightmare isn't going to be healthy instead thinking shes the most trustworthy girl in the world will probably end in her being just that . youre not a dummy but your ex is a cow , but forgive and forget ( you cant get over it till you forgive - she was silly) xxxx GOOD LUCK !!!
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