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writes:heyI'm 15 years old and I don't what to do. I really want to be in a relationship and have a boyfriend, but the thing is I'm too scared. I don't no why I am so scared, when I talk to boys I start shaking and go all shy.My last relationship I was in I got abused and was very close to being rapped (I nearly did get rapped) my ex hurt me al the time and I hated that relationship, but I put up with it and now I'm out of it.I'm too scared to go into another relationship and I really don't no why .. any suggestions?xMOD NOTE: This post has been heavily edited to make it readable, but is as close to the original post as possible.
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (4 June 2009):
I'm really sorry to hear that but, You're probably scared because, you're afraid of being abused and hurt again. You just have to keep your head held high and remember that, not all guys are like that. You might not be able to trust guys right away but, when you talk to guys, hang out for a bit, be friends for a while, get to know them and then once you know their personality, then see if you'd like to be in a relationship with them. Just remember that not all guys are like that.
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reader, Confused_123 +, writes (4 June 2009):
Aww, I'm ver sorry to hear about such awful past experiences with a guy but it's good you're out of that relationship now.
As for why you're so scared, it's probably because this experience has ruined your veiw on men and are worried a future boyfriend will treat you the same.
The good news is not all men are like that. Good relationships in my opinion are ones built from friendship originally (not all of them)it's deffinately a good idea to get to know a guy well before having anything more than friendship. That way you can know abit about what their like and avoid anything like your past relationship.
Maybe you're still not ready to trust guys after what happened but if you want to move on with someone just try making friends with some guys and go from there.
Good luck!
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