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writes:Hi, here it goes. I really dont know whats wrong with me. See, my best male friend, which is really very close to me is moving back to his mom's house. She cant afford to pay the place and still manage everything by herself. So he decided to move back in so she wont have to do everything alone. He cant really afford to pay two rents and still run his business and look after his mom. I know that all i really am to him is a friend, but we have gotten so close with each other. He is divorced, his wife left him cause she just could not see being with him much longer. I have been with him through a lot, emotionally that is. I just dont know why its bothering me so much that he is moving to his mom. I used to see him every day, i went with him to clients and we use to go out for supper together, watch a movie, i use to spend my friday afternoons at his house. On sundays we use to watch the sbk races together. So all of that will change now. Because of our religion it will be difficult to go visit him at his mom's. I really dont know why i'm feeling this way, i just cant stop crying, it feels worse then a break-up.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Hopefully he will be able to have some quality time with you if not quantity time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! I know now, why i never really wanted him to leave, when he told me that he gave the keys back to the landlord i cried even more, i could not stop.... I think it was because i am attached to his old house, it was like a house of our own, a house we had together. I have not seen him for 3 days now i know it might not sound like a lot but it feels like 300 days, i miss him dearly but after all absence makes the heart grow fonder, does it dont?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much! I know now, why i never really wanted him to leave, when he told me that he gave the keys back to the landlord i cried even more, i could not stop.... I think it was because i am attached to his old house, it was like a house of our own, a house we had together. I have not seen him for 3 days now i know it might not sound like a lot but it feels like 300 days, i miss him dearly but after all absence makes the heart grow fonder, does it dont?
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reader, sammi star  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 It's completely understandable that you would feel upset by this. You're very close and been through a lot together, of course you don't want this to change. When you have been spending so much time together it's not just his life that will change but yours too, of course this will upset you as it's been taken completely out of your control. You have to try and accept that people change, situations change, but it doesn't have to mean you won't be as close as you are now. Things will be different yes, but if you still make time for each other I'm sure you'll soon get used to the new arrangement. Good luck, let me know how it all goes.
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