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writes: I've been single for like forever and i dont know why i think ill never get a boyfriend. but im always around guys and i know some like me but we like never go to an actual relationship. I guess i get scared or something and i stop talking to them i need some help in finding a relationship that i can stick with (im only 15) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): i had the same problem........all my friends were guys.....but i was still single!!! i was worried about the same thing....what if they stop talking to me! having a crush on a guy frined is very dangorus!! i once liked this guy, and as soon as he found that out....he dident talk to me for months!! but finnaly we started to talk again.....and now were super close and were really good friends.......
dont be worried if your still single!! your guy friends are pobably feeling the same way u r!! just be pationt and dont worry that much!! having guy friends are better then not having a bf!!
yah i have a bf......but he used to be my best friend......we found a way to work it out.....and its working great!! we broke up once.....but because we were such good friends.....we found a way to get back togehther and it going great!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): How long is forever in your book? You're at the beginning of the dating scene right now. At 15, as has already been said, just start by making friends some boys...the rest will follow soon enough.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Well, there's your trouble. You're "only 15". What makes you so sure that that's single, "like, forever"?
I'd categorise age 15 as at the *beginning* of your dating years, not the end! It's like you're standing at the door of the mall, waiting to go in, and you can't work out why you don't have 30 bags of shopping in your hands.
If you have guy friends, and they like you and talk to you, you're FINE. That means you're a nice person, and that you're visible to members of the opposite sex, and that's a great start.
The fact that you're not coupled up with someone only means that -- sorry, but here it comes again -- you're only fifteen and you and your age-mates are still trying to work out this exasperating dating equation. If you think it's awkward for you, imagine the pressure on 15- and 16-year-old guys, who want to ask you out, but don't know how.
In point of fact, if you actually count your "coupled" versus "single" friends who are your age, I bet you find fewer than half are linked with someone, and that, my dear, puts you squarely in the majority.
Don't worry about being with someone! It's way too soon in your life, and you're judging yourself against a media-generated standard, if you think most kids your age are in relationships. "Ppppbbbttt" to TV standards! Most kids aren't rich, sophisticated, tanned, lean and beautiful; most kids are in fact, works-in-progress, geeky, spotty, confused and out of proportion.
So fifteen isn't the time to worry. If you have't had a relationship when you're in your early 20s, then it might be cause for self-reflection, but not yet.
Meantime, focus on being the nice person that guys like to talk to. Read and study what's going on in the world, so that you have things to talk about with people/guys. Have friends and hobbies outside school, so you don't start getting obsessed with dating to the exclusion of all else. Socialise at school dances, sports events and all the other gatherings that you might otherwise choose to miss. Doing all these things will (besides making you a busy, more socially-rounded person) give you tons of things to talk about to guys, so you won't get embarrassed and freeze up.
And then, if you decide to ignore everything I've written because it doesn't suit your paradigm (you wouldn't be the first!), why not ask a couple of guys out yourself? Just to have lunch with you, or study together. If they can work up the courage to do it, you can!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): yess i am in the same situation! i am 15 also and going through a similar situation, 15 is an age when this kind of stuff happens. i think that all you need to do is talk to the guy who you think likes you or who you like the most, and just go for it. it dos'nt matter who ask's who out. if you really like him then you should just ask him out. or if your too afraid then just through hints at him on going out, or tell him that you like him, but always remember that guys have different ways of telling a girl he likes her, so keep a look out for the little things like if he tries to hold your hand or something
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reader, bonym  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 My dear as you said, you are only 15 so please dont worry yourself. When the time is right for you, of course you will get a boyfriend. I have been single for ages! I mean I had a relationship when I was much younger and I pretty much have been single ever since, but I am confident around men but I am single, but still happy! When its time, things happen in their own time. Dont worry my friend, of course you will date. Take care. xXx
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