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30-35,
*kyla002
writes:Why am i like this?Whenever a older married man say around late 30s to 40s trys to help me out with anything, i always end up sexually attracted to them and end up sleeping or kissing them, why does this happen?My best mates dad was like a dad 2 me but then i started to have feelings for him and we had an affair but it stopped because i moved away. My boss was always there for me could talk to him about anything and helped me through alot, same thing happpend.A close police man friend helped me through alot and know im sexually attracted to him, and theres been quite a few others.do you think maybe its because when i was 13 my youth leader who i was really close to started touchig me and we had an affair?Also i got my heart broken terribly by a bf when i was 16 and never been able to have a relationship thats lasted longer then a month now.Also suffered severe depression.Why am i like this??
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 I totally agree with your other answers here. I really think you need to see a therapist, Probably best that it's a female one too.
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reader, skyla002 +, writes (25 February 2009):
skyla002 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe youth leader was only 23 at the time and yeah i did end up telling my parents about it but the church forgave him and so did his wife, i moved away from the town though now, couldnt handle the shame, the hole church hated me for it.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 When I started reading your question, I noticed that you seemed to go after older, authoritative men: a father figure, a boss, a police officer.
I do think that this could stem from when your youth leader, someone you looked up to, abused his authority over you. If you didn't already, please report him, at least to the church officials.
I think that this distorted relationship with older men was further fueled by your perceived rejection from boys/ men your own age.
Seek counseling, please.
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