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writes:So theres this boy at school, and i have been "In love" with him for about a year now, he's says he's straight, although he does give off some gay vibes ( to most people), anyways, I have NO idea why i am so crazy about him, i mean, we honestly have nothing in common, other than we both watch glee and like to longboard, thats about it.He's a jock, and i'm an artist, completely on opposite ends of the spectrum, sorta.He's a sorta good friend of mine, we talk a lot on facebook chat and in class, but have never hung out outside of school or at lunch, i've asked him to but he always makes up excuses why he can't, and i would eat lunch with him but all his friends hate me.So please, why am i so crazy about an average looking guy i have nothing in common with?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Because you are living out a fantasy with him in your head. And as long as you keep spinning your dreams around him he will appear as perfect for you even though you very well know he isn't. In other words this is a self fulfilling prophesy. You still like him because you enjoy liking him. I also suspect you like him simply because you haven't found anyone better to like, and why give up a nice warm feeling that makes you happy? You even write "in love" yourself, so no doubt you know you are not actually in love with him. You are in love with the idea of being in love. And until this guy acts like a total jerk towards you, or until you find someone better to like, you will most likely continue to "like" him.
He is a good friend. Don't confuse it with being in love. You can love friends, but not romantically.
As for the nothing in common part: body chemistry usually doesn't care whether or not you are a good fit, people fall in love with people who are bad for them all the time.
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