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writes: i have problems communiating with my partner and not sure why. i know i am scared of being hurt but i know if you dont take the chance you will never know if that could have been the one. but my question is why am i so afraid to communicate with him? i know i love him and i want to be with him i just dont understand why i am having a problem telling him. i tell him i love him and i want to be with him. can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (8 May 2006):
 I think you answer your own question here - you are scared of getting hurt so that is what is holding you back. Telling somebody you love them is a big commitment, its like giving a part of yourself to that person and you are investing an awful lot of trust in them.
Are you able to communicate ok about things that dont involve so much emotional investment? If you are then I think you need to start there and work your way up. Start opening up about how you feel about things - but not him. So...for example if you have a bad day at work or something else upset you then vocalise your feelings about that. That way you should get used to sharing how you feel with him and hopefully in time will get used to sharing how you feel about him. Hope that helps.
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