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writes:First off, i just figured out i'm bi. I have fallen for my guy friend who's straight but also very "friendly" to me. Such as lots of hugs, clinging to each other during scary movies etc. I think it's best to keep it quiet between us. In addition, i found my childhood friend after 12 years and we've become really close friends. She knows i have feelings for her and doesn't return them, but she likes to keep me around her anyway. I really like her and i think it could work out but she's not interested in me that way. On top of that, i have a close bi-friend who i told about the girl but not the guy, because he thinks i'm straight. And i have been telling him about the girl the entire time. However i find out that he fell in love with me, and his dying wish would be to be with him, even though he thinks i'm straight. He has a weak heart and such and would probably live a shorter life than most. But, i don't love him like that, i love him more as a friend. So my question is, who should i focus on trying to start a relationship with? The straight guy who stile my heart but doesn't know i'm in love with him? The childhood friend who isn't interested in me as a boyfriend but but likes my close company? Or my weak-hearted bi-friend who's dying wish is to be with me, even though i am not interested in him like that?
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (18 September 2008):
 This is all it comes down to, your friend that you like is stright and dont like the same sex, but if you asked me it sounds like he likes the same sex also just the way you said at scary movies you guys hold on to each other maybe he is bi and doesnt want to come out and say he is maybe he is scared to, the childhood friend only wants you as a friend so she is out of this, just stay friends with her, and the bi-friend if he has a soft heart then just tell him that you dont want to be with him all you want is to be friends and thats it tell him you dont want to lose the friendship that you have with him, so your best bet is to ask you stright friend if he is bi or gay and see what he says and if he tells you no then just back off him and follow your heart and find someone else that you want to be with well good luck and i hope it all works out for you,
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): I am in the same sort of situation. Although I am gay. I have a gorgeous friend that is straight that I am completly I'm love with, like yours he is very friendly to me. All I want is to be with him. On the other hand I have a gay friend who wants to be with me.I has no idea what to do. So I confessed my feelings to my straight friend how they confessed to me he was bi and wanted to be with me. So all was well exept my gay friend was not overly happy I didn't pick him. We started to become further apart so I had to do something. I asked my bi freind who I going out with I was aloud to date my gay friend for the week. He sad yes, so. I rang my gay friend and said that we would trial going out for the week and I if didn't work well then it wasn't meant to be.After the week he was still in love with me and I was still in love with my boy friend. Although my gay friend was happy that we had been together for a week.My bi friend is now my boy friend and I am still good friends with my gay friend.Just tell ur straight friend how u feel, I did and everything worked out just fine, so just give it a shot.
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