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writes: Yesterday my personal life hit a little snag. I've had a best friend named 'Brian' and crush named 'Nick' for a long time. Well, Brian told me yesterday that he's been in love with me for the past three years and then Nick came up and told me he's been in love with me for the same amount of time. I then realized that I have feelings for Brian too that I'd never realized I had before but I also really like Nick. I really need help. Who should I choose: my best friend or my long time crush?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Either way it's going to be hard, hun.
If you go out with you best friend, your crush will be hurt and may move on- or not.
If you go with your crush, your best friend may be hurt beyond belief.
Whoever you choose hun, be careful not to burn the bridges with your friend.
In four years, you might look on 'Nick' as the worst mistake of your life. And you might look at 'brian' and his new girlfriend and regret. Or vice versa.
Good luck hun.
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reader, This_face  +, writes (24 October 2008):
Like Sazzybyface said, if you go out with your friend you may loose a friend while if you go out with a crush it could be different. Although I am tempted to say that someone of your age group could simply not date either and have more than one "crush", I'm sure you don't want to hear that. When I was younger there was this guy I liked who was a friend. The issue was that I felt since he was a boy it was more difficult to be friends and that all I could do was wonder if he liked me. In the end I found that I liked him so much that I wanted to have him as a friend since he was so perfect. So really it's up to you to decide how you like both boys and to go for it. If I were you I'd most likley choose the one who told me he liked me, since you know he likes you and you won't have to worry about whether or not the other one likes you as much.
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reader, sazzbyface  +, writes (24 October 2008):
It is a hard decision to make but sometimes it is best to stick with the crush.
A best friend will forgive you and still be there when your ready... you don't want to hurt them.
If you end up with a crush and everything goes tits up you know your best friend will still be there to help you through.
Admittedly it may be a bit tough on your relationship with your friend to begin with but he will forgive you.
Just remember if you get with your friend and things don't work out you don't have someone by your side in the same way as he wouldv'e been for you to lean on.
Good Luck With Your Decision.
Hope this was a bit of help x
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