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writes:My boyfriend and i have been dating about a month now, The first week of our relationship, i hear rumors About him still together with his ex. My cousin shes friend with his ex, so i asked my cousin to ask the girl if she was still together with my boyfriend, my cousin asked the girl about it and she said no it was over them but they always break up and make up at all the time, even there are not talking this couple days but they soon will date again...then my cousin told her ok but he wants to be friends with my cousin so i want to know if you have any problem with that and the girl says no anyways it not her boyfriend anymore...... The next day she called my cousin asking her to tell me if i can stop talking to my boyfriend because she didn't know we were friends already.....i find it funny but not a big deal....i asked him what is going between them and he keeps saying nothing, that he loves me and its me that he wants. But somehow in me i feel he is still together with her and everyone that knows him told me too and his even staying with her until he gets his own place but he told me his at a hotel.... all he says is that they are jealous of him the fact that he gets what he wants and i am his girlfriend so i should trust him. He sleeps with his phone off everyday after 10pm, he dosent want anybody to know we are dating because he wants to protect if i do not broient to just give him time and time will the truth. I am confused on whom to believe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2011): I agree with the other two posters. It's weird that he turns his phone off at night and wants to keep your relationship a secret. Have you met any of his friends or family?
I'm betting he's not over his ex and is still seeing her. I had almost the exact same experience and I was way too willing to trust the guy. I found out months later that he was sleeping with his ex. He turned off his phone at night so I wouldn't get suspicious. He was always very secretive about our relationship and touchy when I mentioned anything that implied he was still with her. I would recommend outright asking him if he's sleeping with his ex. If he says no, believe him, but if he says yes, leave him now. You'll be much happier if you do.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2011):
 the fact that he turns his phone off and wants to keep you a secret are red flags to me...
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (20 June 2011):
 HI
It could be that this ex is now jealous his with you, but I find this hard to believe if he dont want anyone to know you are dating!! I would tell him to either let people know you are an item or leave you alone. Because he sounds very secretive to me, why turn his phone off every night? what if there was an emergancy? dont sound right to me. But then it could all be very innocent and he could be telling the truth, but again just saying time will tell is nt god enough, time you could have spent with someone who IS proud to say your there partner! he either tells you the truth now or walk. mind games is not an option.
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