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writes:I have been best friends with this girl I work with. Lat's call her "E". She tells me everything even the fact that she's seeing a guy when she is very much married. She has another very close friend whom she just recently introduced to me. Let's call her "S". S belongs to another group of her friends and E always wanted me to introduce to her but we just didn't get the chance to meet.Anyway, me and S started liking each other and we like chatting on facebook. Every time the two of them were supposed to have a date, S would insist that I come along. Sometimes I decline coz as they are also best of friends, I would want them to have their bonding time without me as i would wish S to let me and E go out sometimes.Well, the thing is E had begun her problems with her husband and me and S thought that she should leave her lover. But she wont listen to us. This is what we talk about on facebook, we talk about her all the time. We are concerned about her but since she wont listen, we just chat our frustrations. We even call her some nasty names but it's only the 2 of us use it for fun. But honestly, I didn't mean anything. Until one day, S told me that E asked her to delete me on her facebook. I was shocked to have learned this and it upset me as I know S was telling the truth. E seemed like it was a bad idea to have S and me meet. This really turned me off big time. I mean, why wont she ask me in person to just stop talking to S? Why pretend to be nice?Anyway, I stopped talking to S too. I ignored her calls and texts. But yesterday, she messaged me that E's husband was asking her about this lover as he found out E was seeing another man. She can't handle it, so I called her and we talked. We cannot talk for long as my husband got annoyed by the late night call so I told her we'd chat on facebook the next day.The next day, while chatting with S, E passed by and caught me. I couldn't deny it was S but I told her we were talking about random things. Thirty minutes later, E handed to me a 3 page paper of my chat history with S. I confronted S and found out E stole S's password. I feel embarrassed that we were caught talking about her but feel angry that she stole S's password. E confronted me and told me I wasn't a true friend and she texted S the same. I don't know what happened between them but me and E didn't talk the whole day.Should I say sorry to E, was it wrong that her 2 best friends talked about her? I stand by my opinion it was she who should apologize to S for stealing her password. That is more unforgivable.I need opinions on this and advises please. I don't feel like talking to this girl anymore to the extent of disregarding our friendship.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (8 April 2011):
 If you don't want to be friends with E anymore, then why should you worry about apologizing to her? If you decide you want to talk to her, honestly tell her what you think and feel, but if you don't even want to be friends any more then don't waste your time.
Are you and S still in contact? Are you concerned about your friendship with her in this situation?
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