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Who out there has been betrayed by a person yet you still want sex and love him??

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Question - (17 February 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 February 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

OK, so here is my dilemma. I live with my boyfriend of 9 years. He works as an over the road truck driver so he doesn't come home often. I have a 3 year old son with him. But found out a year ago that he has also been with someone else in another state. They have many things together, does he has a child with the person?, don't know. I did leave him, but now we are back together sort of. We don't really consider each other boyfriend and girlfriend especially since I don't want one, and second I feel like IM past that level.... I feel this is a whole new level, a different relationship altogether.....

HE TAKES CARE OF ME and my son, $2,000 PER MONTH...

I don't trust him of course,,, he tries to convince me that its over with the other person,,, I don't believe him!!! I still love him,, as odd as that sound.. but there are good things about him.

There have been many times that i don't want to have sex with him cause my mind is not right, with the whole trust issue., and yet I still do it, I still love it, and still enjoy it....

And very soon I will have the strength to say no, because I feel that having sex with him has not helped me heal from what he did.

I wonder, how many people are in a similar situation, where u have been betrayed and love to have sex with that person cause u still love him, yet your weak and don't say NO!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010):

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Thank YOU, "FierceBadRabbit", it was a very strong and uplifting message. I needed that., I think next time I see him I will deny him for one week. OH MAN, I KNOW it will be hard, HE is planning to take off from work for a whole week. What ends up happening is, it just becomes about us as a family, no one else matters at those moments, thats the hard part, the idea of a family.

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