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*ausha
writes:i'm 18 i live near london my boyfriend lives near manchester, im pregnant - im 17 weeks todaymy problem started back in may i went out for my friends aunts birthday we went to this club, the group got split and i lost everyone in this club, my friend's aunt went home at 1am, my sister and my friend at around 2 my other friend stayed.i finally found my friend who was with her sister they got thrown out of the club ten minutes before the club shut so i carried on my conversation with this guy we had all been speaking to. he walked me out, i looked for my friend and he told me she had gone back to his mate's flat where they were having a party, i should join them. I tried to ring her but got no answer i went back with this guy who i shall call matt we got to this flat and it was just full of his friends. my friend was nowhere to be seen. i was in this room with three of them, they pushed a chest of draws up against the door so no one else could get in. two of them then forced themselves on me, matt was one of them, a bloke i knew years ago called 'peter' was the other.i managed to get out the room and walked home i told my friend 'claire' who did not come out with us that night and told me there wasnt a lot i could do. plus if my boyfriend found out he would end it with me.i went and saw my boyfriend, i carried on having sex with him but not as much, then on the 5th july i found out i was 8 weeks pregnant a million and ten things are going through my head like who is the dad? can i carry on with my college course? how do i hide my bump from college pals and my dad?At the moment i reallly begrudge this child and i don't know what to do... help me please Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 One you to turn in that you were raped, I'm sorry they forced themselves onto you like that. Please report it immediately so these poor excuse for men do this to another girl, it sounds like you weren't their first. You also need to tell your parents. Everyone will find out you're pregnant when you start to show, the cat will be out of the bag. You can only mask it and wear baggie clothes for so long, and how will you explain any morning sickness? People will catch on to your excuses. To find out who the dad is you can do DNA testing to see if it's your boyfriend's. Schooling in America we take online classes if we have children to take care of, not sure if it's offered in Britain.
You need to decide what you are going to do about the child, whether you should keep it or have an abortion. I'm not pro-choice but in case if you were raped then I deem it an option. But then again, you don't know who's it is. If you chose abortion then you could possibly be aborting your boyfriend's child who has the right to know. If you don't tell anyone about the rape, pass the child off as your boyfriend's and then how will you explain that the child has none of his features? Bottom line, report the rape, tell your parents, get to the doctor so they can examine you and they might be able to test your boyfriend's DNA against the baby's eventually(it may be too early to tell) to see if it's his, and figure out what you want to do with the child. None of this can be fixed unless you tell your parents!
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