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*mber nuttall
writes:Well, i ended a relationship with a loving guy about a month ago. we were together for 8 months and were extremely close and happy. i broke up with him, as i started to get feelings for someone else and that other person had feelings for me. the guy i was in a relationship with, he is completely not my type and we have nothing in common but still was so happy. the other guy, were seeing how things go at the moment, we have everything in common and know all the same people, etc. i just still cant get over my ex. im so confused. they want me to choose. my ex, or the new guy?i love my ex, but hes not my type. we dont want the same things in life. i cant stand the thought of him ever being with anyone else. i know i can be happy with the new guy, we want the same things and love the same things.i dont want to let go of either of them. but i cant hold on forever, its not fair for either of them. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Both guys sound nice, so either way you couldn't go wrong. But it isn't always a choice of which one, you could choose neither. Sometimes we learn the most about ourselves by being single, spending time with friends, family, etc.
And this is a question to get you thinking a bit. - Is it possible that you feel guilty for breaking up with the first guy? And in a kind of weird way think you will feel less guilty if you give him a second chance?
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reader, Sophie-Lou-X +, writes (7 August 2008):
 There's a few questions you need to ask yourself.
Which one are you happiest with ?
Which one do you feel most comfertable with ?
Which one can you see yourself moving forward with ?
By looking at what you've said, I would say your ex boyfriend. I think the fact that he is not your type and that you have nothing in common is irrelevant. Maybe it could be good for you to see the qualities that other people see in life, as well as your own. A somewhat learning curve. And the fact that you can't bare to see him with someone else surely shows something? Your feelings for him are obviously very strong, and i'm guessing he feels similar to what you are feeling if you were together for 8 months.
Obviously, I can't actually tell you which one to go with, nobody on here can, because we don't know these people, or how exactly you feel for them. I think you need to put some thought into it before you make your decision. Go with whoever makes you happiest.
Sophie xxx
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reader, Sophie-Lou-X +, writes (7 August 2008):
There's a few questions you need to ask yourself.
Which one are you happiest with ?
Which one do you feel most comfertable with ?
Which one can you see yourself moving forward with ?
By looking at what you've said, I would say your ex boyfriend. I think the fact that he is not your type and that you have nothing in common is irrelevant. Maybe it could be good for you to see the qualities that other people see in life, as well as your own. A somewhat learning curve. And the fact that you can't bare to see him with someone else surely shows something? Your feelings for him are obviously very strong, and i'm guessing he feels similar to what you are feeling if you were together for 8 months.
Obviously, I can't actually tell you which one to go with, nobody on here can, because we don't know these people, or how exactly you feel for them. I think you need to put some thought into it before you make your decision. Go with whoever makes you happiest.
Sophie xxx
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reader, laura_pops_87 +, writes (7 August 2008):
I think u need some time out! Tell them both u needa think and u want some space. So what you and ur ex dont have anything in common. Ever heard of the saying opposites attract. How well do u know the new guy also? i think u needa be young free and single for a while. Going from relationship to relationship like that isnt good for anyone. You needa breath. Good luck. x
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