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writes:last night my bloke asked me to sleep with him, i said no, by sayin no resulted in him pushin me right by the stairs. i nearly fell down them. do u think he would ever hit me? also i have been reading his comments and it appears that he is meeting up with other gals... i really dunno what to do, dunno y i got back with him tbf, i think i need to end it with him but i dont know how to do it with out hurting any one, we have atleast one argument a day over me not trusting him, how am i ment to trust him with everything i see? when we split up the first time 2 girls come up to me sayin he cheated on me with them but he said it never happened but after reading his mail it seems like he did!!also i like this other lad who is an ex but he said i need to change before he considers getting back with me. he also said girls like me never change just get prettier, he leads me on loads texting and ringing me sayin he loves me and wants us to go back to how we first was. i relii like him more than the boy i am with. also he is worried that i will cheat on him as most of my mates are the opposite sex, but i would never cheat on him, he has never cheated on me either, when we split up he said he will never get with another girl untill me and him stop talkin completely. is he genuine in what he says or is he leadin me astray i just dunno.what do u guys think what one will bring me the most happiness? what one should i trust the most ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): forget both of them
there are better people
honestly
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reader, Paula4u +, writes (25 September 2009):
 Neither, or certainly not the first one, as for the ex.. perhaps being single is better but you could remain just friends for a bit. He can see than that you are not into other guys etc.. , he needs time to, so why not take your time occasionally meet but stay single for say six months?
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reader, old-spinstah +, writes (25 September 2009):
If your current boyfriend has pushed you just because you said you didn't fancy a shag - definitely leave him. Yes, I think there is a strong possibility that he may eventually hit you if you stay with him. It doesn't sound like much of a relationship anyway if you're constantly arguing and can't trust him.
The other guy sounds much nicer (even though he still could turn out to be a player). Why does he feel you need to change before you get together again?
My tongue-in-cheek advice to people wondering which person to choose is usually "choose neither" but I think that this might be quite useful in this case. I really think that a period of being single can really help you put your life into perspective, especially where men are concerned. (It really helped me)
Take care of yourself
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reader, Matthew 79  +, writes (25 September 2009):
Neither guy will bring you happiness. I have to add, i was sitting here shaking my head and lost for words for a moment, I mean are you desperate or what ? Do you really need people to tell you what you should do ? Of course the first guy will end up doing more harm to you than just pushing you. The second guy is just leading you on. The first guy has problems if he get's violent when you say no to sex. The second guy has no right to tell you to change who you are before he will go out with you. If you can't see this then perhaps the three of you deserve each other. I'm not wasting another minute on this question. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): Dump him he's not worth it , take the other one x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2009): I think you need to find happiness without a man first.
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