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writes:I have been with this guy for more than 4 years now. He is my first love and my best friend. We had our share of problems but amidst all that we managed to survive. My mom loves him like he's her own son and his family and my family are really great friends. We started having our long distance relationship about a year ago when I moved back to the US. Ever since then, we have been in an on/off relationship. He admitted that he cheated on me once, but he says that I'm still the one he loves and that he only did it because he was feeling so lonely without me. That is where my trust for him stared to crumble. We didn't break up during that time, but I started to realize that our relationship would never be the same. I recently asked him to give me some time to think things over and he agreed. We decided to not break-up but just to give each other some time and space.The problem is that there is this guy that I've met at church 2 months ago. He's nice, very funny and is a gentleman. He calls me almost everyday and he makes sure that we are constant communication. He admitted that he likes me but he doesn't want to rush things, so we're starting out as friends. He's very similar to my bf (personality-wise) but at the same time, he also has some qualities that makes him different from my bf (qualities that I like in a guy). His family and some of my friends think that we are so compatible for each other. So now I'm in a dilemma!Which guy should I pick? This new guy or my bf??? HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009): I think you should stay with your long distance b/f. Seriosly put it this way.. This new guy.. Now it seems all good but once you get to know him, you will realize he is not the person who you like, once people put there guard down and become there true selfs, that is when we realize if we want to be with this person or not. With your currant b/f, you have history, you have love, its real.. yes there are problems but those can all be fixed.. Dont give up this easily.. Go with your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): You have to think about which guy would make you the happiest. By the sound of it you aren't 100% sure about your current relationship and you are worried about trusting him....but this new guy - it sounds like you are starting to like him.
Don't make yourself feel guilty if you have to stop being with one guy. You should feel guilty if you are with him and really you want someone else. Think about who will make you the happiest - and although I've quite clearly shown my opinion - it has to be you who decides what you want xx
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