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writes: I like two guys and I'm finding it difficult to decide between the two of them One of them (R) is my boyfriend. We've been together about 8 months so I'm afraid of throwing that away for the other guy when it might not last. At the same time my relationship with (R) is a lot more like a friendship. I can count the number of times we've kissed on one hand...4....4 kisses in eight months. We hardly see each other anymore...I'm not sure if he still wants to be with me. The other guy (K) is a good friend of mine. We almost hooked up once but our situations just weren't right. We still like each other and I see him more than (R). I know that if we got together there would be a lot of passion, which is what I want, but I'm afraid I'll be left with nothing after we get more serious. Which Guy do you think I should choose? Reply to this Question
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reader, Smiler +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
If i were you babe i'd follow your heart which is indicating to me that your into (k) in a big way just going from what you've said, i mean yeah sure (r) may be hurt but he will get over it... trust what your heart is saying to you... You know what you want to do deep down. but what i would say to u hone that before you do go for it with (k) sort things out with (r) first be truthful with him about how your feeling about things you owe him that much at least. it wouldn't be fair otherwise. in your post you sounded to me like you had already made your choice but just needed someone to back you up. Hey i'm she... go for (k) life is just to short to be stuck in a relationship ur not happy with. Move on bite the bullet ask him out have some fun, i mean you been with (r) for what 8mths you say and only kissed him 4 times? something not quite right there you know that deep down as well as i do... have the courage to follow your heart act on instinct you know whats truely right :o)
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation babe and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): I was in a situation just like this one last summer. I felt awful but I ended up chosing what would be your K. I knew that if I never went out with K, I'd always wonder "what if?". Also if I loved my boyfriend I wouldn't want to be with this other guy. It was hard and I really hurt my boyfriend and the other guy wasnt worth it, but it turned out ok because it all lead me to the guy I am with now and I know he is the right one. So I suggest you talk things out with your bf first and if you feel you want to go on w/ a relationship with K then do so, just be careful. Do what you feel is right, when the right guy comes along you'll know, I didnt believe that until it happened to me. I think everything happens for a reason.
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reader, bikiniilove_xX +, writes (19 June 2006):
i think you should pick K. sure R and you have had a great relationship but it sounds like you guys are better off as just friends. R may be hurt but in time he'll get over it and you'll still have that great friend. plus you'll have K. it sounds like K is more of a boyfriend to you and you guys arent even going out. i understand what you mean of how your afraid to be alone and you'll be left with nothing, but that sounds un likley. i think you should give it a shot and if it doesnt work out with K im sure R will still be avalible. if not, then sure you'll be alone, but you can flirt with lots of guys at once, and im sure you'll find a new boyfriend soon. dont worry about being alone because it most likley wont happen, but if it does, it wont be forever.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (19 June 2006):
 I think you need to deal with your current relationship before you even think about anyone else.
I would talk with your boyfriend and see where this is all going. It doesn't sound like a relationship that is in good shape and perhaps it is time to say goodbye to being partners and just be mates.
If you are stuck in a relationship that doesn't feel right or isn't going anywhere, you are going to miss opportunities to find someone who you really care about.
I would deal with the problems in your current relationship. It is the fairest thing to do for both you and your boyfriend.
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