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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So I dated my ex boyfriend for 4 years. It was a terrible relationship. He had anger issues, and cheated on me here and there. He's really tall, 6 foot 5, very intimidating. Girls wanted him, guys wanted me, it was constant fighting, verbal and physical, but when he shoved me through a glass, I finally left him for good. Fast forward to 6 months later, I'm still not over him, because I loved him so much, and i turned into a bit of a alcoholic. So much I got too drunk to drive home, and had to call the only person who I knew was up at that time of night, (he was just getting off of work) my ex boyfriend. He came to pick me up, I was waiting for him to yell at me, but he didn't, we just talked about old times. He took me to his new house, which turned out to be his new girlfriends. And from there, he was almost like a new guy, he was the nicest I had ever seen him, gave me water. Made the couch for me. I was fully expecting for us to rekindle our old flame and sleep together but he denied me, telling me he loved his girlfriend, it was crazy how much a guy who cheated on me regularly, had changed in 6 months. He told me to leave early in the morning, because his girlfriend is super jealous and thinks irrational when she's angry. Then he looked me in my eye (the first time he has ever did that) and said "take care of yourself". Now I really want him back, and contemplating calling him again. Where was this guy when I dated him??How can I get him back?
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (11 December 2015):
Your judging the "new" him after seeing his nice side for only a few hours. I'm sure he was nice to you for a few hours when you first met, shortly before he turned into an animal. Following that, you have four years of prior bad experience that your are trying to forget. He is with a new girlfriend that he loves. Time to move on to bigger & better things and do something about the booze.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2015): What's wrong with you?
He was horrible to you and cheated. What's there to be so in-love with? Why don't you take some time off from relationships and learn to love yourself?
Sign-up for AA. Get over him, he's not your boyfriend anymore; and he doesn't want you back.
Why is he different now? Because you bring out the worst in him, and she brings out something better. You have all sorts of mixed and confused perceptions going on in your mind; because you need help with your post-traumatic stress from the domestic-abuse, and rehab from alcohol abuse.
Go find professional help, clean-up your act, and love will find you again. You'll be in better shape to appreciate it, and to be appreciated by someone better than him.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 December 2015):
 You can't..... so forget it...
Good luck...
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