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writes:I'm an 18 year old female. I realised a few months ago that I'm gay. I came out to my best friend a few days ago and she is completley fine with it. So now I have somebody to talk to about things which is amazing. Also I have somebody to go out with to try and meet girls.However I don't look like your stereotypical lesbian, so I don't think anybody would even know I'm gay. I'm not ready for all my friends and family to find out yet. So I don't want to come out to everyone. So how and where can I meet other lesbians. Obviously gay clubs, but it's hard to tell whos gay in there these days.thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for any suggestions u may have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): I think you've gotten some good advice... here's something to keep in mind on your journey. At some point your going to make a freind or two that you feel comfortable with, and they'll intoduce you to freinds, who will in turn introduce you to more freinds. At that point you'll likely have a circle of freinds who become your lesbian world. I'd suggest picking these freinds carefully, so that you really do surround yourself with quality women who will help you grow in positive ways. I've had freinds who came out and went down this path and ended up in a group of not quite so nice (tough dikey) girls and while they were attracted to the saftey and freedome of the group, couldn't find a solid partner.There are plenty of beautiful, funny, articulate lesbians out there... just take your time- you may have alot of girls pursuing you, and while some fun play may be in order, be selective about your relationships- some lesbians seem to go from first date to living together in 2 dates... seems FAR TOO FAST to me... I'd suggest that slower may be in your best long term interest.Good luck! and enjoy the journey- it will be well worth in in the end!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Hello, I was in the same prediciment last year. After a lengthy 9 months trying to make it work with a boy, I got frustrated trying to keep my feeling surpressed. So I broke up with a boy, joined girlsweb.co.uk to take the first step and 10 months later and 3months into our relationship I am now with a beautiful girl whom I am completely besotted with and am even planning to take her to Egypt next year for Valentines. And when I say beautiful, I mean BEAUTIFUL!!.. I myself too don't look like a "sterotypical" lesbian, and wouldn't want to.. Just not my style! I've yet to come out to my friends and family even though she stays over all the time and my family get on great with her. I'd advise you to join that site, once e mails start pouring in to show interest in you, you start to feel a bit more confident in the fact that there are other women interested in you and it certainly gets the ball rolling!.. My girlfriend is the most nicest, endearing, paitient (because I can get a bit hot headed at times) understanding and positive person I've ever come accross, I feel as though it's fate that we met even though we are 90 miles apart. But we make it work! We see each other like 2-3 times a week when she and I are not busy. We understand each others need for space and are not clingly. That's why a dating site would be most beneficial, as it's not as daunting as approaching a women face to face, and plus you can suss the person out first! Just be careful about fake people, and don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do!!! Hope this helps mate, hope you have the same turn of luck that i've been fortunate to have!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2009): Lesbian Dating Websites
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