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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ever since graduating from college 5 years ago, I can't seem to meet guys. It took over a year before I met my ex and that was through a friend. I didn't meet him on my own. In college, I had no problems getting dates simply because everyone was single and looking to date. Even though I am shy and quiet, it wasn't a problem cause guys did the approaching. But in the "real world", it's so different. At work, I'm the youngest person in my department (28). Most everyone else is in their upper 30's to early 40's and already in a relationship or married. I tried the community, I do volunteer work, I joined clubs and gym. But again, not a great way to meet single guys. The guys i've spoken to on dating sites only ever want to meet for sex, none want to make the effort to take me out on a date.I'm just at a complete loss. I know you'd probably suggest friends again but, I don't have that many friends here. Most friends from college and hs are scattered accross the world. I have more long distance friendships than local friends, which is also a problem. Making friends and finding a guy. What I am missing? Where to meet guys after college??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2019): The Coffee Meets Bagel app is pretty good. Also, meetup.com is a good way to make friends and people in general, and bond over common interests.
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (6 May 2019):
 Online !
Use match.com or better dating apps. You may enjoy bumble as you get message first and decide whom you may want meet.
Women have all power to date now. Screen profiles, put great pics, have fun, flirt, put that you are seeking a relationship and anyone who doesn't meet your needs or is just seeking sex, you just don't reply or click block button. Easy peasy. Dating online is never personal until you meet a person and go on a few more dates. It is fun and extremely enjoyable.
Continue to join group or gym memberships. It's hard as introvert but I'm sure if you practice, it gets easier. Good luck
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