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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year now and lived together for about 8 months of that. I just moved out 2 weeks ago because we started fightening and we decided it would be best for us. The last month or so we have said alot of hurtful things to eachtoher (out of anger and bickering) and have been quite distant since i moved out but still talk and see eachother every couple days (we also work together 2 days a week). We have been close friends for acouple years and he has always been very cut and dry to leave someone he doesnt want to be with but still "loves me too much to leave" but still isnt sure if our relationship is going to work. Im giving him tonnes of space and zero harassment and i understand we suffocated eachtoher but what am i supposed to do? Where is this supposed to go? We have amazing chemestry and everything its just such a hard time. We go from everyday contact to very little and he seems hesitant and cold one minute then loving and teary eyed the next...what does this mean?? I need some advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): I have tried being straight up but he is so indecisive. I know hes loyal to me thats no worry at all but im so confused. When i ask him what hes thinking he breaks down and says "i dont know" and "im just frustrated.. the things you said eat me alive and im not sure if i can let it go" but when i suggest just moving on he gets upset and says he still loves me hes just soo confused. Its incredibly aggravating but i love him. Originally i thought it was space he needed so ive been letting him do his own thing and not harassing him with calls and such... he always said "less is more" whatever that means but nothing seems to be changing then he comes to me and says "i heard a rumour you cheated" TOTALLY out of the blue (which is so absurd) but we work in a bar so rumours happen and now hes even more indecisive. help!
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