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writes:I don't really know who to ask for advice or guidance on this so ... hello Dear CupidI'm a second-year university student. Since starting the academic year in late September I have been spending a lot of time with one of my 'closer' female friends, we'll call her Effy. I have been single for some time now, but it isn't as if I've been actively looking for a girlfriend, over the past few weeks however I've began to have feelings for and even dreams about Effy - whilst they are not explicitly 'sexual', they generally feature us sharing intimate moments and suchlike. I almost feel guilty about having these thoughts; Effy is one of my closer friends, we spend a lot of time talking to one another and in the relatively short time we've been friends we've gotten to know each other very well. Whilst she shows a level of interest in my somewhat limited love life; when we do go out and I do manage to "get with" someone she does show a noticeable trace of hostility towards them and myself in the aftermath. Nevertheless, I don't read into that as any kind of latent romantic interest - she has been looking for a boyfriend, with varying levels of success for some time, going on dates and all. So yeah, I just don't particularly know what I should do in my situation. I'm unsure about where I want to take our relationship, and even if my feelings are indicative of the fact that I like her at all. Even if I did, my rather low self esteem and fear of rejection would put me off the prospect. Any advice or guidance would be appreciated
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 If and only IF you are interested in DATING her - her being your potential GF - I would ask her out.
She does sound interested in you as a potential date/BF. Otherwise I don't think she would have the "hostile attitude" towards any girl you hook up with.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 November 2012):
If she seems upset with you and/or another woman after you hook up with one it is because she likes you as more than a friend.
I think you should go for it. If she rejects you, you can still be friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): I think you should actually talk to her maybe.
Maybe she likes you as well,so just see.
Also, think about is as in how is it going tobe later on when you guys get together and then break up?
because for example my best friends she was in a same situation,and now its awkward between her and her ex. And she was very close friends with him before.
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