| A
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: I'm a singer in an R and B band. When I'm on stage, I'm completely in my element; I'm able to be confident, sexy and energetic, and people love it. The problem is that I'm not usually like that. People will see me perform and hang out with me afterwards, when I'm still in "stage mode", and think I'm one thing but then lose interest when they get to know me better and realize that I'm not always as outgoing and energetic as I am when I'm performing....in fact, I'm pretty shy and insecure. I wish I could always be as confident as I am when I'm singing. How can I bring that side of myself into my everyday life, when I'm not behind a microphone?
View related questions:
confidence, insecure, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (10 December 2010):
 It seems that music must move you, you're a talented musician, but you're not much of an actor. Here are two things you need to do:
1) Realize that you have to gain some interest in yourself! It's okay to be shy and a little more private. Not every starlet has to be a crazy, wild partygirl. I think your shyness adds to your mystery.
2) You have to look at afterwards as a stage performance too. You can quit performing when you get home! I think you just need to rehearse it a few times (just like you would with any song), and then you'll train yourself how to behave backstage. Offer smiles, start conversations, force yourself to get into the routine... with practice you'll get it. Pretend you have a body mic on, if it's the microphone that's giving you the boost!
People love your music, and that's the most important thing. You win their hearts with the songs you sing!! So don't worry too much about trying to turn yourself into someone for them. Good luck, sweetness!
|
