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writes:hi this maybe a long story so please if you can help take the time to read it fully. Me and my husband have been married 7 years, been going out since we were 16 and have been close friends all throughout school. Well we sort of dirfted apart and agreed to seperate for a while to see how things went but at the end of it all we decided we would be best as friends. Well he did have sort of another gf although they didn't last long i and have at the moment another bf although we arent as close or anything like me and my husband were. I suppose on one level i do like him but we definately arent going anywehre at all and to be honest i don't want to. He doesnt like the fact that me and my husband are still close friends even though he is with his ex wife. he keeps saying that "its because you still want to be with him" which i can't hide it any longer, I do. Both me and my husband seem to want the same thing we have talked about it and he says if i don't want to then we don't have to but he'd like to give it another go. We both think it was just the fact we needed sometime apart. Both me and my husbnd have only ever been with each other till now and even now we have only ever been with one other person. I don't actualy love my bf in that way an he honestly doesn't show it back to me as i know hes slept with someone else about a month ago i just didn't say anything cause at the same time i not someone to go blaming him for that sorta stuff when i want my husband back. We have virtually split up anyway and my husband split up with his gf about 5 weeks ago. Thing is before all of this happen me and my husband had a weekend away booked with our daughter and we always kept it booked. We both fell we want to get back together and give it another go as we never have actually argued or anything it was just we drifted apart, but we don't know where to go from here and we both think its gonna be so hard that weekend cause we still have to share a bed which isn't a problem its just i know what will happen and so does he and it'll be quite hard to say nothing will happen because we can't actually bare to be around each other at the moment as we need to get all that out the way(the sleeping together) because we just have that erudge all the time that we want to because we can't. We just don't know where to go from here or what to do next. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Hi Hunny,
Im going out on a limb on this one, You have both had time apart and realised you dont want to be, You so very obviously dont care for your b/f. It sounds to me as if you lost your way. You have been friends with your ex husband from school you are still good mates so what is it that made you drift, Something I feel so special and I think you feel this to, You have a daughter together you are adults, spend that holiday with your daughter if you dont feel the time is right to sleep in the same bed/room sleep in with your little one or make other arrangments what better time than spending it with your child to get closer not in a sexual way.
I no what you are saying you both want to sleep together as you have not for a long time and its been forbidden so it makes you both want it more, But as hard as it will be dont.
Try again if its what you both want you are a family, work it out for you all, The sex will come soon enough and hunny this may be a good time to talk about everything that you feel went wrong and your ex can do the same, Hopefully the love you share for each other will bring you back to a stronger more understanding marriage TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE AND LUCK MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (17 October 2007):
"nothing will happen because we can't actually bare to be around each other"
I say you to ought to part ways. New mate would be good for the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): if you are uncomfortable about going on the holiday then just explain to him and come up with a reasonable excuse for your daughter not to go maybe you are ill or something like that but to me it sounds like you still want a relationship with oyur husband so why not try again you have both experienced different relationships and realised they weren't right for you so try again but if you don't want to then don't do it
Love Leah x
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