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writes:There is this guy we will call him D. that I have officially known for a couple of years but we haven't talked in about a year now.When I first met D. I wasn't in a good place in my life and I wasn't ready for a serious relationship so we stopped talking for a while. We started talking again and I was in a better place in my life but then I moved more than an hour away and my car broke down so we never hung out after I moved. Then I started seeing someone locally and D didn't take it too well and we stopped talking again. I moved back to the town that he lives in recently and I was at a friends house and we were discussing relationships past and present. She asked me if I regretted not giving a chance to someone from my past and I immediately thought of D. Later I sent him a friend request on facebook and wrote him a message. A few days later D accepted the friend request but never responded to what I wrote him about wanting to catch up and hang out. In fact the message still shows as unread by him. This is someone that has been on my mind alot lately and I mostly really do just want to catch up and see how he is. But I also want to see if the connection is still there and if maybe we can pick up where we left off. I know he was a little hurt when I had started seeing someone else because he wanted more than I could give at the time... It's always been wrong place and time until now (for me anyways). I don't even know if he is in a relationship or anything because its not listed in his info. His phone number is listed in his profile. I guess my question is if it would be ok for me to call him. Would this make me seem crazy? Is this type of thing ok? What do I say if I do call him? Where do i start? How do I apologize for leaving him in the dust? I mean him accepting my friend request has to mean something right? At least that he doesnt completely hate me and there is at least potential to be friens (which i would accept if thats all he wanted) There was always something there it was just never the right time.. I cant stop thinking of him. So should I call? I dont want to sound crazy or obsessive... I just cant forget about him. Thank you for your time.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (2 September 2012):
Don't get me wrong, I perfectly get your point of view and I can tell that you are ready. But a lot could have changed so it would be wise to not put your expectations too high. I don't think you will seem crazy if you are honest about where you got his number from. It is all you have anyway and I am sure he would want to know where you got his number. Call him and give it a shot. Try to breathe a few times before you call and compose yourself. Just go for it. All the best and I hope it does work out in your favor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess what I mean is will I seem crazy by being like hey d I got your number from facebook how are you. I don't want to seem crazy I just don't know where to start. And yes I would act on it this time
This is the first time since we met that I am oersonally in the right place for something serious and in the right location for ulit to be with him. If you know what I mean. Long distance usually doesn't work so as much as I regret it now I thought at the time I was saving us both heart break by not starting something when I was not close. And at the time I had no intentions on moving back here. Now I'm ready and willing and in the right place in my life where I want to start something real and I want to see if it could be with him.
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reader, Xearo +, writes (2 September 2012):
Even if the connection was still there, would you act on it this time? There aren't any real answers to give you because in the end you have not even spoken to him yet. I guess you can try calling because at this point, it doesn't seem like you have much to lose. He's accepted your friend request but I don't think that means anything...you are just letting your thoughts of the past get carried away.
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