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writes:Hi, i am 20 and would like to ask you your advice on something if that is ok? I am a bit worried about getting a girlfriend because i have never had one before and pretty worried i won’t get one if i do not take action. I don’t really know how to go about doing it. I am at university and should be taking action really as it is something i desperately want. I am doing fairly well at other areas of my life like my degree and going to the gym a couple times a week etc but failing miserably at this. My flatmates do not really go out that much at night and i am pretty nervous about going out alone to meet girls that way. I have approaches girls in clubs etc when my mates and me have gone out but had no success yet at that. I do not really know any other good ways to do it. I had a look into internet dating but do not like the look of that. I joined a free one but the girls rarely message you back and i would rather do something non internet related.What would you recommend i do? I really need someone to go out and do this with (if i tried to meet girls in clubs) but if i did this where would i go about looking for a wingman?Thanks a lot,Chris
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (27 February 2010):
 well you can always look for new friends and find new hobbys to do, going out in night clubs you may find girls who are looking for that someone whilst some maybe looking just for something else. although you dont like the idea of internet dating why not join a local internet friendship site you may find new girls through new friends.. either that or you could just find new hobbies to do ie pottery or archery fishing lots of things you could pick u and do. good luck aphex
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): Don't feel bad about this at all! I just got over the same problem fairly recently myself. I know you've more than likely heard this saying before, but it couldn't be more true! (The saying) "Love comes when you least expect it." I went through months where I would try my very best to attract the opposite sex and meet someone (in my case a good guy) but had absolutely no luck! Once I stopped looking (gave up)that's when guys started to notice me: because I was purely being myself and not trying so hard to put on a show-therefore, I attracted some decent/good guys, not just people looking for just sex. A good piece of advice is to think of all your favorite things to do/hobbies and go to places of corresponding interest (i.e. if you like playing tennis-go to a meet, or join a team). By doing this, you're bound to meet someone who is also like-minded and will share similar interests. Good luck!
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