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writes:I need some help on where to meet women, here's the situation. I recently got a full time job and I like this job. Because of my recent success I want to find a girlfriend, but I'm having a hard time socializing and meeting women. My network of friends are no help because they don't know any single girls. I'm not a big fan of the club scene, and I have also tried online dating only finding disappointment. I have run out of ideas, please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): You may not be a big fan of the club scene but it is basically a supermarket for women. They're not my favourite places either. But if I was looking for a girl that's the first place I'd try. You see they're very different places when you're looking to meet someone as opposed to just going there drinking, standing around talking to friends and being generally bored. I wouldn't discount it as an option anyway just as I wouldn't discount the library or normal supermarket as places to meet women.
Look women are EVERYWHERE at all times. They're half the population of this planet, every time you leave your house there are women around the trick is to find an excuse to talk to these girls during a random encounter. I used to approach girls I liked the look of on the street to ask them an inane question like directions to somewhere or what time does a certain shop close at. Then just led it into an introduction of myself. I've gotten numbers that way too. It's not hard at all, I mean I always found it easy enough talking to them in these circumstances because basically I talk to everyone anywhere I go. Cashiers, people on the bus, at the bus stop, in the supermarket. Both men and women. If you view the women you want to date like you do people you don't and you treat them with the same kindness and respect then they'll respond to that. All it takes is an introduction and asking them out. You know it's not 100% effective obviously but rejection is just a means to try again. Plus each one you learn something you did wrong or that they just weren't interested.
Again it's not about meeting women, women are everywhere you go. You probably meet tens of women daily wherever you go. The trick is to be confident enough to approach the ones you like or even better approach the ones that you're not necessarily in awe of but find something cute about them. Expand your tastes and keep your mind open. You may find that a girl you may not necessarily think is drop dead gorgeous could be perfect for you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Do you have a reasonable amount of free-time on your hands? First off all it takes time to do activities, and a girlfriend will also need some of your time. So if you recently got into a full-time job, think if it wont just be stressful right now to get occupied even more. Just an idea.
On to how to meet women.. I suggest you pick up a hobby, and just get to meet new people. Then see what happens. Do an activity you enjoy though. Women love a man with skills and dedication (as long as he's not going over board), and if you find a hobby you enjoy, then you will come off as positive and great company, which is also attractive for women. Meeting a woman when you look your best is definitely a plus!
Try to meet women in a friendly way alone, and let flirting come later. Sort of testing the water before jumping in, you don't want to come off as a clingy, needy person who jumps at anyone you can get.
Finding the right person can take its time, so be patient! Befriend guys as well while you're at it, often they have cute sisters/girlfriends with single friends...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Join a gym man...thats for your own benefit anyway and a great place to meet ladies in the process. Ive met some quality ones there and this year is best time to join cause of all the "New Years Resolutions" where they have no enrollment fees or lower costs. Good luck.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Join an activity or common interest group (books, hiking, museums, whatever you happen to enjoy). The women there are often more down to earth than the pub-crawling type.
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